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:eek: Hello, all. After being a professional dieter since the age of 12, I've finally decided on getting the lap band. I'm 4' 11", and weigh 268 pounds. (God, it hurts to type that! And I thought I was fat at 118 when I was 18! This is the heaviest I've ever been.). I've done WW to DEATH and through several incarnations, I did the Oxford Diet in college. I did Atkins just before my wedding and was able to get to a point where I didn't look like a HOUSE in my wedding dress (I wish I could have been the perfect size 6 and looked better for my husband!), and diet pills and starvation diets. I must have lost 1,000 pounds over my life, and I'm 45.

This is my last resort. I want to be able to eat like a normal person, and not worry about my weight. I would LOVE to be able to go into a store, pull something off the rack, and not have it look like a tent. I caught my mother looking at me the other day, and shaking her head in disgust. The weight just doesn't stay off. I know what to do and how to do it, but it just doesn't work. So it's either this, or wiring my mouth shut.

I know surgery carries risks, and the dying part doesn't scare me. I lost my husband last year after only a year and a half of marriage, so I'd get to see him. What I don't want are complications that'll be permanent. I actually was sent to the complications thread on this website when I told someone I was thinking about LB surgery, and she said, "OMG! Don't do it!! It's too risky!!!" But I know a friend of mine who's had her band for about a month, and her husband was banded about a year/year and a half ago, and all seems to be fine.

SO, here I am. I've just switched insurance so that I can get the bulk of this covered (I got Oxford), started with my food diary, and I'll hopefully have the surgery by the end of the year.

AAAGGGGHHH!!!

Anyway... Hi!:w00t:

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Welcome! I have had my band just 7 weeks and love it. Life has complications....and being fat as we get older carries a big bunch of risks. The statistics on lasting bad side effects with the band are low; lower than the statistics for lasting bad side effects if you did nothing and remained heavy (or got heavier)

So Good to meet you!

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Hello Oblong. Welcome. Sounds like you are ready to get your band. Your post touched me. I think we all have lost and gained and lost and gained many times. And when we get our weight off, maybe we can go shopping for those cute non-tent clothes together :w00t:. Like Restless said... sure there are risks with the surgery, but nothing compared to the risks of carrying all of our extra weight around. We have to be realistic about the risks, but try to stay positive and focus on the success stories - that's what I do. Good luck to you - stay in touch. Now that you have found LBT, you have lots of support. If I can do anything for you (answer, listen, chat) let me know. Take care!!!! Becky

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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