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What you meant is not what came across. I can not read your thoughts in the words, only what the words themselves me. Excuse me for following the rules of how English has been used for centuries. Terms like "these" people have always been used to connote an outsider, someone who doesn't belong and inferior in some way. Obviously, you don't understand how English is spoken.

So sorry, next time I will include a lesson on its use.

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Right or wrong people are going to do it! Anyway I would suggest it be with people you aren't FRIENDS with but people who may be acquaintences with. That way you don't have anything invested in them but you know them well enough to know they aren't crazy. HAHAHA!

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I have before and it was great. It was a friend (since HS) and my husband (then boyfriend) it happened a few times and even once with the friends wife. We still stay in contact and giggle about our wild nights. Now that I am heavier I am not willing to have one, too many body issues. Maybe once the weight is lost I will gain that confidence back again.

One problem I have had is once I tell someone they assume I am going to hit on them or want to sleep with them. I am curious not a whore thank you very much! LOL! Or the worse is when they discover I am bi, they ask why I havent hit on them.

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I did once when I was drunk...when I still drank...yeah it was a weird experience....

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craigslist...my suggestion is to meet a potential third or couple in a bar or a restaurant first. It's a good way to feel out if there is chemistry first. It's uncomfortable enough at first. At least you can get to know each other and go over a few of the basics BEFORE you "Get to KNOW each other" ya dig? :crying:

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lets just say vegas offers anonymity/discretion/and an escape from reality.

Amen sister!:crying:

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well said misskitty. maggie being an "older" woman comes from a different era so she wouldn't understand.

the rest of us live it up!!! life is short!!!

Theres a swingers club here in Rhode Island and believe it or not a majority of the members are 45+, and they have so much fun!

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Okay so I've read all three pages of this... Here are my thoughts:

1. Yes I've had threesomes a few and they were all pre op (Haven't made the leap post op yet!

2. the first time I was uber nervous, i should have educated myself a little bit more before i did it.

3. Definatley make sure you and your partner are WELL aware of the rules of the game. (Don't look for any, make your own :crying: )

4. Post an ad on craigslist in the adult section maybe casual connections or mf4f or mf4m or mf4mf etc etc. There are other sites too like adultfriendfinder

5. Meet with your potential candidate at least once before or even for a drink (not so many that your judgement will be completely impaired! like I said before, to get to know each other and make sure there is a sexual chemistry. Online pics can be deceiving, And a threesome with a third can be uncomfortable, unsatifing and down right BORING if there's NO chemistry!

6. If you find that person that you are super into, go over "The rules" and make sure all parties are comfortable

7. Remember, Play SAFE, Relax, Enjoy, AND HAVE FUN!

One thing that i DO want to add: Make sure you both understand the possibilities with a threesome, swap or swing session. All too often Couples INSIST that jeleousy WONT BE A PROBLEM, at first it is, for many people. Just remember, you are the loves of each others life and you both willingly gave consent to "play". As long as you both stick to the rules that you set yourselves then you should be alright.

Think of all the options! Feel free to send me a message if you have any other questions! Sex talk is my fortay!

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What you meant is not what came across. I can not read your thoughts in the words, only what the words themselves me. Excuse me for following the rules of how English has been used for centuries. Terms like "these" people have always been used to connote an outsider, someone who doesn't belong and inferior in some way. Obviously, you don't understand how English is spoken.

So sorry, next time I will include a lesson on its use.

Seriously...??? It's a message board, it's a little difficult for people to read "Tones". Why don't you take it easy. For someone who is open to SHAGGING other people while in a commited relationship you really should learn to lighten up a bit. As myself also being one of "These" people, I didn't take offense to the way it was written, because I understand that 1. she's new to the scene, and 2. IT'S A MESSAGE BOARD AND YOU CAN'T READ TONES OR BODY LANGUAGE. Relax dude, seriously.

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Sure, all the time. Sometimes Lucy left hand joins in the fun. Usually it is just Rebecca Right hand. :redface::tongue2:

We haven't but we have discussed it quite a bit. Our former neighbors were very open swingers with a standing invitation to come over for a :w00t:dip:wub: in thier hot tub. If we were to do it, the neighbors are too close. It would have to be in Vegas or similar as previous posters have said. The anominity would be freeing.

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I have when I was living in college dorm.. was super drunk & stoned and it just happened. I was barely friends with the girl and she invited a guy friend over, and la la la. It was not my thing, and I would not have liked doing it with a good friend or someone I was dating. I never talked to her again, and I never saw the guy again. It made me feel dirty afterward and I ran straight to the showers lol.

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