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Hi everyone.

I have never posted here, didn't have the need until now. While only an HPT has confirmed it,I do believe I am pregnant. I am in shock. I do not know why since Dh and I did not do the right things by b/c last month, but I was under the mistaken impression that since I had fertility issues in the past my 44lbs weight loss would not be that significant. Well, I ws wrong.

I am terrified! Terrified of telling my dr since he was adament about waiting for two years. Terrified that I will have to stop jogging which gives me pleasure or that I will be too tired to do it. I am horrified that I am concerned with the weight gain I may experience because for the first time in a long time I like the way I look.

We were planning on starting in the beginning of the year but now, I guess not so much. I don't want anyone to think that I am not happy about this. I am ( I think) but right now I am just in shock. I haven't even told my husband yet, although I told him I really thought I was pregnant two days ago and he laughed and said I wasn't and to stop spazzing since I am so irregular.

I guess I need for someone to tell me the obvious. I am a grown up and my doctor won't holler at me ( too much) and that I am not really going to gain 70lbs (only gained 18 with our son pre-band--he is now 18 months) and that really, worse things have happened.

Thank you all for letting me vent.

Mikki

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Mikki

Things will be ok. Ask your OB/GYN dr about excercises for pregnant women. You can do this. Be happy. Keep your chin up and congradulations!!!!

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Just tell your doctor that it was unplanned and if he is a good doctor he will respond warmly. Please be happy, some of us have been banded for a while and still aren't able to get pregnant. And I've heard of a lot of great exercises that pregnant women can do, some places even offer aerobics classes for expecting moms. Congratulations!!!

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Thank you all.I know what both of you say is true. I am just shell shocked I guess. I feel pretty stupid since there is always a possibility and we didn't take precautions last month.I think we both just assumed it wouldn't happen since it didn't happen without help with our son. i am going to give myself a day or two to digest the information and barring something silly like my not being able to keep anything down I will call my fill doctor to let him know the situation.

I am pretty sure I can keep jogging. I will ask my doctor. God knows what he is doing, even if the rest of us don't. LOL

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I also got pregnant 8 month into my journey and I was very upset more because I was being selfish about the weight gain but things worked out after wards, I only gained 23 pounds which I lost 2 weeks after delivery plus more. It did take me about a year to re-evaluate myself and get back into it but that the great thing about the band you can continue where you left off with the proper adjustment. Enjoy it and worry about it later, thats the mistake I made I was upset the whole time that afterwards I felt really guilty about not wanting to be pregnant. Good luck.

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Thank you, Esmerelda. I feel better. I told my husband, who is thrilled although he understands my concern. I don't think I am going to gain all of the weight back, and you are right. This is a blessing. I should really enjoy it. This time will be a different experience than the last time. Not that it was bad, because it was great. Just I will be a little smaller and maybe look a little more pregnant instead of just overly round LOL.

This is a blessing. My first appointment is October 9th. I am excited. We are going to be adding another child to our family. We are blessed.

Thanks again. I will take your words to heart. Now to go eat something. I have not eaten a thing all day! Stress has made me NOT HUNGRY! that must surely be due to the band LOL

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Congratulations on the news. I think this may be an easier pregnancy as far as the gain goes. I am sure you will do fine, it must have been meant to be.

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