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i posted this in the general intro area before i found this group:

hi everyone. i'm new here. my husband and i are both considering the surgery. he has already started his pre-op testing and doesn't have a surgery date yet but hopefully soon. as far as me, i'm really torn.

we want to get pregnant and i'm at the point where if i were to get pregnant at my current weight i could be at risk for gestational diabetes as well as other things. besides my weight i'm pretty healthy, normal blood pressure and sugar.

my question is this? should i keep trying to lose this weight on my own while trying to get pregnant, or wait the 1 year post op to have our family. we really don't want to wait but not sure what we should do.

any thoughts?:confused2:

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i think you should wait. who knows? something else besides the diabetes may go wrong because of your weight. (sorry! no offense) and you should get healthy before having the baby so all your attention can be on keeping you baby healthy and happy! besides-you want to teach your child a healthy lifestyle so why not get healthy before tha baby? hope this helps. good luck!

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There is a lot to learn in the first year of being banded. (about yourself, the band, healthy living, stuffed emotions, etc.) Personally I would give yourself the time to process and then start the wild ride of pregnancy.

My surgeon requires a complete unfill when pregnant. If the same is true for your surgeon you might want to take that into consideration too.

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I can't speak for anyone else, but I am very glad I had my band before I got pregnant. I really think it has been the key to a healthy pregnancy for me. I have gained about 15lbs (I'm 32 weeks now), and I'm sure I would've gained MUCH more than that if I didn't have my band. Sure, I wish I would've lost more weight before I got preggo, but I'm also a bit older than you and that was a big factor in how long I was going to wait.

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thank you girls for your answers!!

we're waiting to see the result of this current cycle and if no BFP i'm going to go ahead with the pre-op testing and stop trying until i'm healthier. it's been a really hard decision, thank you for the support.

-juno your EDD is the day before my b-day, good luck!!

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I had my first child before being banded and gained a LOT of weight after he was born. I'm so relieved now that I have the band to help me through the "new baby adjustment period" Midnight feedings used to be for both me and the baby. Not this time.

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I decided to get banded before we got pregnant and it is working out very well.

I gained almost 70 pounds with my son and was scared to death of another 70 pounds on top of my current 225. I really wanted to have a healthy, enjoyable pregnancy and I feel that now I can. Also, it will be a lot more fun trying for a baby with a few less pounds holding me back. I also am looking forward to a cute little baby bump instead of people not being sure if I am pregnant or just heavy.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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