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sxevan9    0

sxevan9
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Yettia.. just like everybody else have already said .. this is something you have decided to do for you and just keep that in mind. In our lives we do so much for everybody we seem to get lost, but this choice to have WLS is something for us, for you and with that don't let anybody make you feel bad about your choice. When I told my long term "friend" of my choice he reacted the same way. Kept asking me why go to that extreme, it is so much you can do besides having surgery. I brushed it off and said this is for me and I would hope you would support me, but that is your choice. I must admit things have not been good since I told him, but again that is also on him. Because nobody .... I mean nobody is going to take this away from me... Good Luck and kepp your head up and like April said keep loving him if it is meant to be it will work itself out and if it doesn't isn't it good to know now???

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mstrina27    0

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I am scheduled to have surgery on Friday, 7/25, and my fiance is not to happy about it. I have wanted this surgery since 2000, and he was always encouraging and wanted it for me just as badly as I wanted it. Now that I have done self pay and the surgery is coming up, he is now questioning my decision. He now does not understand why I need the surgery. And he just can't seem to understand why I would pay 10k for the procedure. He is now saying things like we could have worked out together, we could have did this and that together to help me loose the weight. I think brotha is just a little bit insecure, because his chubby fiance is about to become a brick house,:lol:. He is trying everything in his power to discourage me from having it. Not gonna happen....He even told me that he loves me the way I am. I said if you can love me at 200+lbs, you can surely love me at 100+lbs. I just had to vent....:scared2:

Wow u know how they say cheaper to keep her... well in this case he thinks it better to keep u nice and round... see he knows that once u start to loosing weight u are going to be noticed more... I was married about 6-yrs ago and he was fat and lazy and made me that way... i gained hella weight.. but when i made up my mind to loose the weight he was like well why now.. who is that.. and why do u have to wear that... we wound up getting divorced because of other issues but he has to find acceptance within just like i said... Just like the other post said DO U.... U already took the step to love u and to put u first... if he really wanted to help he would have started working out with u long before now... but what u tell him is baby we can still workout about a month or so after the sugery...lol... how about that..... :thumbup:... Keep me posted on how everything goes tomorrow... I go to get my 2nd fill today...

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yettia1031    1

yettia1031
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I appreciate all the words of encouragement. I feel so much better, really I do. Well the big day is tomorrow, and I feel good about it. I will keep everybody posted and will be back to let ya'll know about my experience. Awww you guys are to much:blush:

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mzreeda    1

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i truley understand my "EX" did the same thing he was all cool til i had the surgery acting the same way your man is... BUT if i didnt have health issue that was leading me to my death bed then that would be a different story but you must DO4U and nobody else . if you cant out your self 1st who will ??? well good luck and god bless.

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Paula08    0

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You seem to see it for what it really is insecurity. He is scared to death that you are going to turn heads and then wont want him. Let him know that you would love to go to the gym with him after surgery. It would be beneficial for both of you. I wish my husband love the gym like I do, so if you have someone who will go I say DO IT! And reassure your man you love him for who he is and you looking even better isnt gonna change that at all.

Hugs

Paula

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curvesincali    0

curvesincali
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Hey paula,

I " wished" my husband went to the gym with one time. Girl when we got there he jumped in on my form, how I should'nt ride the bike first, it would be better for me if I drank room temp Water so I would not drink too much, and if he were me he coulda, woulda, and shoulda another way.

You would have thought he was Harvey from VH1.

I had to cut him off... Fast.

Curvesincali

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