What is the rudest thing someone has said to you?!?!

[Mommy.ArmyWife 6]

ugh! i could write a novel on how my loving parents have "lovingly" tried to get me to lose weight.

I could, too! Love that my mom used to say she was going to put a lock on the refrigerator! How sweet is she?

[Mommy.ArmyWife 6]

ugh! i could write a novel on how my loving parents have "lovingly" tried to get me to lose weight.

I could, too! Love that my mom used to say she was going to put a lock on the refrigerator! How sweet is she?

[Skywalker 170]

ugh! i could write a novel on how my loving parents have "lovingly" tried to get me to lose weight.

I could, too! Love that my mom used to say she was going to put a lock on the refrigerator! How sweet is she?

I understand how some parents have their hearts in the right place trying to get their kids to lose weight, but I guess the ways they can go about it are a bit psychologically damaging. I'm all for putting overweight kids in Weight Watchers as soon as possible--I think it makes people aware of their foods, their values, and teaches really good eating habits (if followed, obviously).

So are you guys OK out there at Ft. Hood, Ashley? Staying safe I hope?

[JustWatchMe 7,117]

My first visit home from freshman year in college was Thanksgiving, and I had gained about 20 pounds. My grandfather greeted me with, "Well, I guess they're not starving you."

When I was 28, I lost a great deal of weight, and when l was about a size 14 and exercising faithfully, I went out for a walk wearing shorts. Some guys sitting on a porch across the street whistled. I ignored them, and one loudly called out, "Fat a$$!". That hit hard, because I had started to feel normal and it just cut me to my core.

My paternal grandmother, whom I visited twice a year, greeted me judgmentally every time during my preteen and teen years with, "Do you have a boyfriend yet?" It always made me feel ashamed.

My husband told me the night before I was banded that it was "the quick fix".

My mother and father were both fat when I was a kid, and "fat" was a common insult in our household. I don't remember one specific thing they said, but occasionally it was used as a weapon. My mother used the term "bimbo" to mean "fat", so until I was an adult I thought that is what "bimbo" meant.

The high school registration person who weighed each freshman yelled the weight across the field house to another person. "150!" It was more than any other girl in line, of course, and devastated me.

The nicest thing someone said to me was my late aunt who saw me every holiday season. The year I had lost over a hundred pounds and the other relatives were oohing and aahing over how "good I looked", she came up to me in the kitchen and said, "You're beautiful, and you have always been beautiful." That heartfelt lovely sentiment stuck with me.

[Skywalker 170]

Sounds like your late aunt saw the inner beauty and didn't succumb to all the stupid antics and stereotypes everyone else did.

[jamilyne 102668 1,207]

Worst thing someone has ever said to me- My ex- husband told me that I was a fat bit.h and told me that I wasn't pretty anymore. Still stings.

[F_it 101]

I feel for everyone who has been hurt by so much insensitivity. Especially when it comes from someone you love, or even like, it stings and obvsiously haunts so many of us for years. I couldnt help notice that a lot of the memories mentioned here happened long before the weight gain was as serious as it became later on, and I cant help wonder how the mean comments actually factored into a downward spiral.

My mother would constantly joke with her friends in front of me about how her teenage daughter was bigger than her. a lot of times she would say it and puff up her chest to imply she was talking about my bust. I remember always wearing huge baggy mens shirts when I was a teenager because I always felt so ashamed of my body. when I started college I fell in love with swimming and was a toned size 10-12 and was finally brave enough to wear clothes that werent always several sizes too big, she would stare me down and say things like "dont worry, guys who like big girls (again with the chest puffing) will chase after you now". Id usually have some sarcastic reply and say things like "ohhh well i better perk up in case mister charming is around for a hunt today" like many I used humor to cover up the other feelings.

My dad always made me feel self conscious too. He and my mother got divorced when I was ten (I wont get into how that contributed to a lot of negative self esteem) and as I got bigger (as in size 12-14) he would sometimes point out attractive women on tv and say "see how ladylike she looks, try looking more like that". on my wedding day I felt so feminine and beautiful in a strapless gown.. right after the ceremony (the photographer was still taking pics of us) he glanced at my arms and said, youd look better if you slimmed those down a little more. I said dont worry now that I have a man in my life you wont have to worry about me putting these huge arms around you.

Ive had random people say things like "with such a pretty face its a shame you dont lose weight". or even worse "you are quite pretty for someone your size". well golly, thanks ive resisted saying "thanks, you look quite pretty for someone with your attitude" lol. but, I was always prepared for the rude people who have said things like hey youve gotten bigger since the last time we met, I switch to a very (fake) sincere expression and say oh yes, sorry hun, I see this room wasnt big enough for my size AND you manners. zing! lol

the cutest hurtful comment I ever got was from a little 3 year old girl sitting in a doctors waiting room with a cold. she was with her dad and suddenly wiggled off her chair, pointed her little finger at me and simply declared: "FAT!" I couldnt help but smile at her but my face was totally red as her dad yanked her back to her chair.. he looked just as embarrassed as me lol!

bottom line is.. we are all here today DESPITE the hurtful comments, and people who make others the butt of their jokes really have their own issues that they arent strong enough to acknowlege, so they do a half-assed job of overcompensating by pointing at "flaws" in others.

[pink dahlia 2,513]

This did'nt hurt my feelings but since you asked............... many years ago i was heavy and I kept my then short straight brown hair in a curly perm. The neighbor kid said " She looks like Richard Simmons !" Gee, .............thanks kid ! Now , I have a slimmer body and longer warm blond hair. I wonder who he thinks I look like now ? And #2, my now 20 yr old daughter was always what I called "sturdy.". In elementary school one girl kept making rude comments to her, calling my daughter "fat" , etc. It was really bothering my kid one day, so ........I never, ever would tell my kids to swear or call someone else names, but I had to say SOMETHING that would let my daughter know I was on her side. So...... when she told me this mean girl had called her "fat" at school, I calmly replied " next time she says that to you say " Yes, but I can go on a diet but you'll always be a bitch !" My kid was so shocked at my unusual language that she literally fell on the floor laughing ! "MOM ! Im shocked at you ! " Well, it had to be said !!!

[dark n lovely 70]

I was simply told by women not by men that i had such a pretty face but do i know how much prettier i could be if i wasn't fat!

[gowalking 10,790]

This is a heartbreaking thread. I hope that most of the folks who posted here and have been off the forum for a while have found the success they were looking for. I had my share of rude comments as well but nothing was a bad as my own self hatred for what I had become.

I try to never forget how hard the struggle to eat well can be and I refuse to become a judgemental 'former fatty' same as I try not to make faces when I pass the smokers when I head into my building at work. I remember when I was one of them...huddled around the ashtray in all sorts of weather sucking down the smoke.

I don't always feel it, but I try as much as possible to have compassion for those who remind me of sadder and more difficult times in my life. Besides...one should never judge a book by it's cover anyway. I've started dating a gentleman who is on the heavy side and during a conversation about struggling with excess weight, he looked at me like I had just grown another head when I told him I understood how difficult the struggle is. He just presumed I never had any issues as I'm pretty small now. In time, I may show him what I used to look like.

For those newer posters who have recently added to this thread, you just hang in there. I never thought I'd ever be a normal size again and I'm there and enjoying my life more than I have in a very long time. So will you.

[dark n lovely 70]

Thank you Go walking for your uplift this morning. Appreciate you!

[Bandora 136]

There are so many rude things that people have said. Let me list a few:

People sighing loudly to deter me from sitting by them on a bus/plane

Being weighed in grade school and having the teacher say weight in front of other kids

You have such a pretty face......all variations of that comment

Having my walk compared to an elephant, Water buffalo etc..

My ex called my stomach a roadmap since I had so many stretch marks and rolls

Strangers asking my due date when I was not pregnant

Having people assume I am 20yrs older than I am because of the weight hiding my features

Comments like "earthquake" and "avalanche" when I walked by people

[mchiasson68 15]

Fat bashing is the last form of prejudice that society refuses to even try to put a stop to. If anything with the advent of so much reality TV like housewives of whatever, kardashians, etc. now it's not only about not being fat but about maintaining a perfect look with plastic surgery and hair extensions. Even male actors are thinner than ever. Look at the infomercials. Three topics. Food/ cooking, weight loss/ equipment, and tons of products to keep us all looking 21. Ladies, we've bought into a lie. I had my surgery to be healthy. But I will never be perfect. I know my genes. I'm not a thoroughbred. I'm a Clydesdale. And that's still a fine horse too.

[amponder 396]

I don't even know where to start, I remember to incidents both of them at a grocery store, A teenager behind me kept "mooing" and another time an old lady in front of me took one look at my shopping cart and commented to the cashier "she doesn't look like she goes hungry" Once when I was 11 I went in for a booster shot, the nurse says "is there a chance you might be pregnant?" being 11 I giggled cause I thought the question was absurd, and the nurse replied "well, you're not exactly thin"

[amponder 396]

I don't even know where to start, I remember to incidents both of them at a grocery store, A teenager behind me kept "mooing" and another time an old lady in front of me took one look at my shopping cart and commented to the cashier "she doesn't look like she goes hungry" Once when I was 11 I went in for a booster shot, the nurse says "is there a chance you might be pregnant?" being 11 I giggled cause I thought the question was absurd, and the nurse replied "well, you're not exactly thin"