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I just recieved approval from insurance after a long battle. Now reality is sinking in and getting nervous. I know I'm doing this for all the right reasons but the biggest thing for me is the drastic change in life style. I have fears of success and what life will be when it is done. Hard to explain maybe someone else is going or has gone through this roller coaster of emotions. Any advice?

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I just recieved approval from insurance after a long battle. Now reality is sinking in and getting nervous. I know I'm doing this for all the right reasons but the biggest thing for me is the drastic change in life style. I have fears of success and what life will be when it is done. Hard to explain maybe someone else is going or has gone through this roller coaster of emotions. Any advice?

Hello Dosnyc:

It's only natural to fear "the unknown". I know how it feels to

have to wait for approval. I had to wait for 8 mos. before all

my paperwork went through. You know the saying, "It was worth

the wait"? I began my journey in the Spring of 07!

Trying to lose weight for those months prior to my doctor suggested

the lap band procedure.

I was scheduled for my surgery on Feb. 26th 08.

Since then I have lost 41 lbs.! It is amazing to see the results

in the mirror. Looking forward to buying new clothes soon.

Have no regrets! Your better health should be your first priority.

I had type II diabetes, obstructive sleep apnea, and high blood

pressure. Since my surgery I am only on half my diabetic meds.

Also on 1/3 of my high blood pressure meds. I feel sooo much

better!

Know that a better you will be the results of using

self-control on your journey!

I leave you with this quote:

"Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power".

-Seneca

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I think that is natural. I just think about the things that I have not been doing because I was just too big or uncomfortable. That makes me so mad to be missing out on life. The lifestyle change was a worry too. I had my surgery 4-3. I havn't had a fill yet, but have already lost around 30 lbs. The difference is 2 pants sizes. People who see me and do not know what I have done keep looking at me and saying "you look great" or "you are so pretty". It feels great! I think most people have reservations about the future, but the future is now something for you to look forward to even more! Good Luck!

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Hi and welcome to LBT!

Your fear is natural. I think at some point in the process we all fear something. Your fear is not of being healthy and living a longer life; your fear is of the unknown. You don't know the person you will be when you lose the weight and that is scary to those of us who use our big bodies to shield us from people and their cruelty. Once you lose the weight, you won't have to "hide" from people and their hurtful ways. You will have the confidence to stand up for yourself and not be ashamed of all the things you couldn't do as a fat person. Your life will improve in ways you never imagined. The only thing life can be is better because YOU will be better. Get healthy, grab life by the horns and just run with it!

I wish you much luck and success.

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Thanks you were most helpful. I suffer with the same health issues except diabetes but on the edge of that too. I realize the good things that will come out of this. I guess living this life for so long and trying so many diets that my biggest fear is failure. Not sure if that is normal emotions but this is the one time I hope I can succeed in. Crazy after all the waiting that now I question my confidence.

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A lot of us also carry that fear of failure into surgery with us. By the time we reach the point of considering surgery, we have failed so many times that we can't believe this may actually work! Look at the threads about getting rid of clothes. There are a lot of people here who have piles of clothes in various decreasing sizes just piling up because they are afraid of failure. I have only lost 10 pounds because I am pre-op, but can already tell I will be one of those people. Just know that everything you are feeling is natural and you can always find someone on here who is going through the same things.

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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