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To expose my upper arms? My shoulders and upper arms have not been sun-kissed in ..oh maybe 20 years.

I see lots of before and in-progress pics of people on this site with sleeveless tops, and you all look fine to me. But I look horrid/wretched/ awful/disgusting and otherwise lack a certain appeal wearing something that doesn't have at a minimum a 1/4 sleeve. Perhaps it is all in my head, but I just don't know that I can ever go anywhere in public without my upper arms covered...sleeveless T's or dresses or bathing suits in public just don't seem possible.

Assuming that I reach a comfortable body weight, and can wear clothing not made by the local tentmaker, will I ever wear something sleeveless?:lol:

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I was really worried about this too. My arms got huge before and now they look SOOOO much better! I was worried about the extra skin. I asked my friend's dad who is a doctor and he says pregnant women gain a lot of weight and their stomachs snap back in shape so so will my body.

My arms arent rock solid, but they look so much better than they did 37 pounds ago. I walked around yesterday in a tank top and looked really good. Its great watching my body fall back into shape. Ive lost all my backfat, my arms look much better, my friend got manis and pedis with me yesterday and told me that my legs are half the size they were the last time we got pedicures, my waist is defined, my butt is a lot smaller.

The only thing I hate is right away, my boobs deflated so they are very saggy now (something ive never experienced before). Also my underwear is hanging off my behind, so I think it is now time to buy some new bra and panty sets and get bras with the maximum lift.

It's such a great feeling to watch my body turning back into something I can be proud of and with each pound I get more comfortable in my own skin. You will love your new found confidence wearing tank tops and showing off your arms!! :frown:

To expose my upper arms? My shoulders and upper arms have not been sun-kissed in ..oh maybe 20 years.

I see lots of before and in-progress pics of people on this site with sleeveless tops, and you all look fine to me. But I look horrid/wretched/ awful/disgusting and otherwise lack a certain appeal wearing something that doesn't have at a minimum a 1/4 sleeve. Perhaps it is all in my head, but I just don't know that I can ever go anywhere in public without my upper arms covered...sleeveless T's or dresses or bathing suits in public just don't seem possible.

Assuming that I reach a comfortable body weight, and can wear clothing not made by the local tentmaker, will I ever wear something sleeveless?:lol:

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Im worried about the arms too?! I have a wedding to goto in July and the dress i have falling in love with is sleeveless.

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I ordered it already. Now im walking around with wrist weights on all day to help tighten the arms. I hope this works

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Well girls, my doc said, the younger you are the easier it will be for your skin to adjust and go back..unfortunately I'm a bit older and am having to work pretty hard to feel comfortable with what I refer to now as my mini bat wings! :smile: But I shall prevail!! And so shall you!!:biggrin2: Then bring on the swim suits, the sleeveless shirt, dresses, and blouses!! :smile:

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But I shall prevail!! And so shall you!!:biggrin2: Then bring on the swim suits, the sleeveless shirt, dresses, and blouses!! :)

Thanks ladies, I hope so...but whenever I look in the mirror (which is of course a rarity), a see gut and hams for arms. I just cannot picture sleeveless...:smile2:

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Hey, I really am not that happy with my arms - but I've been told they're not that bad. It's getting warm here in Sacramento, and we're even likely to have our first 100 degree day for this summer by the end of the week!

I'm going to wear something that is not so hot! Besides, I need to work on my tan!!

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BAD GRAMMAR!

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:biggrin2: Yall don't get down! Look at how much you have already accomplished! My biggest problem is my tummy! It's stretched and with one c section, I doubt it will ever go away! HA! But we are all our own worse critics! I can see from all the pictures that are being posted with before and afters that all of you are doing so fantastic!!:smile2: Keep up the great work and eventually you will see those arms slimming down enough to where you won't even think about whether your shirts have sleeves or not!:biggrin2:

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