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I saw my surgeon today. He said he would have to talk to my psychiatrist before he would decide to do the surgery. He wouldn't even discuss it. Just sent me home and said he would contact me. I wasted all that gas and a 4 hour round trip for nothing. I am so upset it's not even funny. I could spit nails. I'm seriously considering switching doctors. They could have told me before I came up that this would happen. I wish they would have. I don't have the money to waste gas like that. I asked if they knew if he would have an answer this week because I was not going to waste the gas to come up for the seminar if the answer was no. They said if I don't hear from them by Friday to give them a call. A complete waste of time. Just because a psych doctor once told me I might have Borderline Personality Disorder. I don't even know if it was ever even put on my records. He says he doesn't have any luck with BPDs and the lap band. If I do have it, it is mild. My sister is BPD and I am nothing like her. I tried to tell him all of this but he wouldn't even give me a chance. All he would say is that he needed to talk to my psych doctor. I mean I would understand if I had this disorder in a severe case but I don't and he wouldn't even listen. I'm furious. I'm trying to see his side but it is difficult. Has anybody else come up against this? How do I handle this? What should I do? Should I switch doctors? I just don't know. There is one other doctor in Boise, Idaho that does this. The only other one does the bypass. Please give me some advice. I am so mad I can't hardly think straight. Sorry about the rant, but it upset me. And to add insult to injury I gained 5 pounds. So now I weigh 285!!!

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I saw my surgeon today. He said he would have to talk to my psychiatrist before he would decide to do the surgery. He wouldn't even discuss it. Just sent me home and said he would contact me. I wasted all that gas and a 4 hour round trip for nothing. I am so upset it's not even funny. I could spit nails. I'm seriously considering switching doctors. They could have told me before I came up that this would happen. I wish they would have. I don't have the money to waste gas like that. I asked if they knew if he would have an answer this week because I was not going to waste the gas to come up for the seminar if the answer was no. They said if I don't hear from them by Friday to give them a call. A complete waste of time. Just because a psych doctor once told me I might have Borderline Personality Disorder. I don't even know if it was ever even put on my records. He says he doesn't have any luck with BPDs and the lap band. If I do have it, it is mild. My sister is BPD and I am nothing like her. I tried to tell him all of this but he wouldn't even give me a chance. All he would say is that he needed to talk to my psych doctor. I mean I would understand if I had this disorder in a severe case but I don't and he wouldn't even listen. I'm furious. I'm trying to see his side but it is difficult. Has anybody else come up against this? How do I handle this? What should I do? Should I switch doctors? I just don't know. There is one other doctor in Boise, Idaho that does this. The only other one does the bypass. Please give me some advice. I am so mad I can't hardly think straight. Sorry about the rant, but it upset me. And to add insult to injury I gained 5 pounds. So now I weigh 285!!!

Your surgeon is just trying to be thorough. He/she has no idea how severe your personality disorder is and typically it is not smart to take the patients word on psychiatric conditions since insight on disease can be limited. I'm sorry you feel disappointed that things aren't moving quickly enough but it seems like your surgeon is trying to optimize the best results for you.

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My Doctor is in Boise. Dr. Cahn at St. Lukes Meridian. He is great. I had to do a psych eval. I was very nervous because I have depression. I take an SSRI. My eval was by Dr. Mark Snow in Boise. He does alot of evals for Lap Band candidates. I really liked him too. It is NOT uncommon for people with weight issues to have depression or other mental issues. It can actually help your insurance approve you. I had to go thru alot of hoops for insurance approval...took me 7 months. Don't give up. Just go step by step by step. You'll get there. m

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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