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:frown:a small background.. I am post surgery had my third fill a couple weeks ago.

I have really worked hard on sticking to my portion sizes ...my dr says about a cup..or about the size of a lean cuisine dinner. so ive been doing that BUT when I look at that one cup of food it just looks like so much :lol:.. and then I feel guilty.. I mean I try to think "ok before this you would eat 3-4 cups in a setting" or I try to think ok you are losing weight. I dont know why I feel so guilty for eating that one cup of food now. I just look down at my legs when Im eating and wonder why I keep eating. should I reduce the portion size to 1/2 a cup.... im so confused I feel like theres a war going on in my head. .. one parts telling me good job..the other one is saying NO that still too much food look how little you've lost. its like this constant battle in my head which is so weird because I never worried about portion sizes ..(probably why I got so big) but now its like almost an obsession. .. im sorry to ramble none of this will probably make any sense. maybe it will tho ..to someone

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What Jack said.

And this is another reason why I like food tracking software so much. My doc said aim for 1000-1200 cals per day (and gave me eating guidelines as well). I track my food on TheDailyPlate.com and I can see that Yes, I'm getting in between 1000-1200 cals per day and Yes, I'm eating a diet that is well balanced between carbs, Protein and fat, and Yes, I'm getting in the nutrients I need (or I am falling short in some area and I supplement).

Plus I track my weight loss in Excel on a weekly basis so I can see how the numbers are going down.

Cold hard facts can help silence those accusing voices. We really don't do ourselves any favors by eating too little.

Hang in there!

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I agree, and also want to say taht being banded is about being good to yourself, not about punishing yourself for being fat or disgusting or whatever your own internal dialogue tells you you are. It is reasonable to eat!

But losing weight banded is super weird, you always feel every week "I wont have lost this week, I ate too much" becuase you're not hungry and deprived.

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