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Hi,

I am new to this site and I'm still trying to find my way aroud about it.

I am getting banded on 21st May and I am really nervous. I am nervous not only about the surgery but also about how I will adapt to my new eating habits. I am afraid that I will burst the band (I don't even know if that is possible!) by overeating.

I would love to have people who are in a similar position as myself that I can chat with and gain support from and give support too.

Thanks

Anne xx

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Hi Anne!! I'm new as a poster, but I've been reading on here for a while. I'm getting banded on May 23rd and am also nervous but excited at the same time. I have found that this site is full of caring and encouraging people which make my countdown much more enjoyable!! I sometimes think I will miss the food too, but I am looking more toward enjoying healthier food, and my banging new body and attitude!! :-)

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Yea i know how you feel, i'm worried about the same thing! but, i'm trying to keep optimistic! i need a BIG change and help in my life, and the band is going to help me with it! keep your chin up, you can do it!!:w00t:

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Your fear sounds a lot like my biggest fear...I'm just so afraid that I'm going to fail. The band is only a tool, and it's still up to me to change my habits.

I get so excited looking at my ticker, but as it gets closer, I'm just so scared...I can't afford to fail. I'm just so grateful I have all of you here for support.

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One my REALLY CLOSE girlfriends got banded last June. She said EVERYONE has that fear and it's perfectly normal. However, she said that if you overeat with the band you'll pay for it and it'll be something you won't do again. She said after she got banded the desire to overeat wasn't there anyway and she doesn't miss all the food like she thought she would and that most people are like that.

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Thanks everyone for the replies, its good to have somewhere I can express my hopes and my fears with people who understand. I love my family dearly but they don't understand my situation. So thanks again.

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Hi Anne,

I am also getting banded on the 21st of May. I am very excited , but also a little nervous. You can do it i'm in you corner. Good Luck!!!

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It really helps to know everyone has the same excitement and fears .

I too am worried I will over eat and this helps so much that the feeling will be gone .That is what I want the band to help me with.. This is all so helpful .Surgery here will be 26 th of May and go to my preop next week.. Never thought I would ever get to say that..

We can do this :thumbup:

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Sorry I haven't answered you until today. Her weight loss is GREAT! She looks soooo different it's ahrd to believe. She doesn't regret the decision for one second, and that gives me a LOT of hope.

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I'm starting to realize more and more as my band date gets closer and closer that I rely on food as a friend, its my BEST friend!!! I'm getting really sad about it, but at the same time, I know that its the food I love that MAKES me so fat and unhealthy!!! Most of my friends don't eat like I do, as much as I deny it. My biggest fear is that I'm going to miss food so much it drives me nuts!!!! Also that at parties and stuff I'll be super tempted to eat tons of pizza or something, and will make a fool of myself when I can't keep it down, and so many other things. Now that we are just waiting for our bands I think its only human to start dwelling on our fears.

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I too have the same fears! I am afraid of failing (once again), but I'm also afraid of never being able to eat my Mom's Pasta again! What's wrong with this picture!!!

Also, when I read all of the postings about some foods not agreeing with people, I worry because I'm not a fan of throwing up!

I am going to be the big 5-0 in September and I DO NOT want to be "fat and fifty"!!! I want to be "fit and fabulous"!!

I know I can do this, but I think my nerves might be getting the best of me. That is why this website has been sooooo helpful!

Thanks everyone! :wink2:

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And you WILL be fit and fabulous!!! I've kind of made it my little goal to look good in a bathing suit for my 40th birthday in two years. I'm going to reward myself and go somewhere nice like Kauai or somewhere in the Carribbean where a bathing suit is TOTALLY necessary.

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Thats my goal too! I want to go on a cruise when I graduate college in 2 (and probably a half) years, and I want to wear a bikini!!!

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Thats my goal too! I want to go on a cruise when I graduate college in 2 (and probably a half) years, and I want to wear a bikini!!!

omg allison I am dreaming of wearing a bikini one day!! My hope is by next summer I can wear one! :lol: I havn't worn a bikini since i was like 7 years old lol. I just wonder if I'm going to need any "extra" work to look halfway decent in one! I guess i'ed better start saving now! But man, once I can put on a bikini, I'm going to go out and buy like 10 of them!!!!!!

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