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Here I am, the missing OP. Yes, Kat is correct, this has been resolved. So funny how old a thread can be and then get resurrected. When I'd received email notice of a reply, I didn't even remember that I was the one that started this thread.

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I wonder if this can also happen to a couple that has been banded one week apart? I also wonder if the male has the same type of issues with hormones and other things as well? This sounds almost like my wife and I with things. Any thoughts?

Chris

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A lot of changes occur when the body is healing from surgery. People recover at different rates and men AND women both have hormonal responses.

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Chris - I know a couple that was banded about 2 months apart. It has put some strain on their (almost 40 year) relationship. It has causes a lot of competition on her behalf, and a lot of hurt feelings on his. She had more insurance struggle (despite using the same carrier) even though she had a much higher weight, and had a longer wait time to surgery than he did. He lost more in his first few weeks than she did in her first few months, despite not having any restriction and eating "whatever he wants". She very much resents this success and interprets it as a sign of her own failure. Is it hormonal? Not in this case, but it is psychological. And, band or not, sometimes couples just need to fight.

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