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I'm sorry that I can't respond to any of your threads right now, I probably wouldn't anyway, as I think this thing has gone on enough.

Today is my Father's birthday, and it's a hard day for me because he isn't here with me anymore. You see, I had the best Father (and Mother) in the world, and today is a hard day for me. I'm sorry, I can't say any more.

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Betty, I am truly sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you at this time. I too have lost my father and know the pain that can cause.

I will keep you in my prayers.

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Betty..Im sorry you are having a bad day..birthdays of a loved one who is no longer with us are tough. I know all too well. I hope tomorrow is better for you.

Sending you lots of hugs...

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I have days like this too, Betty. Two days a year--the day he was born and the day he left us--my father is first and foremost in my mind. He was the best person in my life and I lost him quite suddenly.

Take care of yourself and know that he loves you still.

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Betty... I lost my father as well at age 16... I am so sorry that it has been such a rough day on a day that is already tough for you... ((((HUgs))))

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((((Betty)))). I'm so sorry for your loss and that today has been such a difficult day for you. Grief is an ever-changing experience. Like a dark cloud in the sky that sometimes is far away in the distance and no threat at all, but other times is right overhead. But it never really goes away. I hope you start to feel better soon.

Nancy

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Dearest Betty, I'm so sorry. I know that both of your parents were amazing people. Look at the great daughter they have! I hope you have lots of photos that capture happy memories of your family. Though they're no longer here physically, they will always live in your heart. (((Hugs)))

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Hi Betty- My dad's b-day was FEB 20th. He died almost 9 years ago. I feel for you & know the pain & loss you feel. I miss him so much-he was simply the greatest. I stare at his photos everyday- they are under this clear desk protector in my office.I also keep these old comic strips from his desk that he used to keep. He loved Hagar the Horrible & the Lockhearts or Lockmans(i think they were called) Anyhow its that little bit of cherish memories that I look at everyday that I love the most. You know I am the youngest of 4 & still cry about my day AT LEAST once a month. So I hope you have a good cry today & can go through some awesome memories as well. I have this little voice recorder that I found yrs later & on it is my dads voice he says"have you look at the instructions yet?" I play it back once in awhile just to hear the sound of his voice. I miss that the most. Anyhow- sorry your day isn't the best but I thank you for this thread & reminding me how much I miss him. He always made me smile. Thanks Betty & ((Huggs to you))

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Im sorry to here that your having a rough day! it will get better If you have faith in God he can heal all, fullfill your needs, God bless you! Cheif.

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Betty, I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling blue. I hope your wonderful memories of your father will see you through the sadness.

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((((Betty)))), I'm sorry your feeling sad today. I lost my dad a few years ago, and I know how you feel. And some years it hits me harder than others. Memories can be so bittersweet. I hope you feel better soon.

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Thank you everyone for you kind words. I don't know why, but this year was a really tough one. I have so many good memories of my Dad, and I cherish each one of them. Thanks again!

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