How to respond when people comment on your appearance after surgery?

[lizonaplane 1,605]

I've been open with everyone about having WLS. If they aren't happy about it, that's their problem. But on the other hand, I have a very supportive family. I've told people at work too, and there haven't been any issues. People SHOULDN'T comment when other people lose weight because it may not be intentional - I work in cancer research and many people lose weight due to cancer or other medical conditions, not to mention eating disorders. But people DO comment on weight all the time.

[STLoser 1,085]

I'm basically and open book, so I have told everyone I know, and everyone has been pretty supportive. I had one person early on say it was the easy way out, and I set them straight. I am a pretty outspoken person though. That person had been nothing but supportive since that one time.
I was at a funeral last week where I saw a lot of people I hadn't seen in a long time, and I did get many comments on my appearance. I just said thank you to people who said I looked great. Only one person asked what I had been doing and I told her I had wls, and she is a thin, never been overweight, person, but she was very supportive and curious about what it entailed, and asked many questions about my experience. It was actually nice to educate someone about it.
I don't care if people do judge me though.
All this being said, you have a right to keep it private if you choose. Not everyone talks too much like me. [emoji51]
I would just tell people I had been eating right and exercising if I didn't want to share that I had surgery. It's the truth, after all. [emoji4]

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