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I had a thought that maybe I will be really ugly once I lose all the weight. All my life everyone has been telling me I am pretty and that I would look fabulous thin (well my mom) but recently I have been looking in the mirror as I lose weight and I see my nose getting bigger, lines showing around my eyes and all sorts of imperfections. Anyone relate to that.

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I didnt think I would look ugly. I was a nice size up until I got pregnant at 18 so I had seen myself thin before, but I was afraid that I would start to look old. Luckly that hasnt happened people are commenting that I actually look younger.

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I know what you mean Karen.. I can look at pics of me from about 5 years ago and I had SUCH A PRETTY FACE!! When I see pics of me now, my nose and chin look odd.. I don't see the prettiness I use to.

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I had a thought that maybe I will be really ugly once I lose all the weight. All my life everyone has been telling me I am pretty and that I would look fabulous thin (well my mom) but recently I have been looking in the mirror as I lose weight and I see my nose getting bigger, lines showing around my eyes and all sorts of imperfections. Anyone relate to that.

I haven't been banded yet so I haven't lost my weight but that is one of my fears. People tell me I have such a pretty face but I think I'm "okay" not anything spectacular by a long shot, however, I have NEVER been thin so I have no idea what I will look like and it has crossed my mind a few times that I will be thin and ugly. Vain, I know.

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I am 30 years old and have lost 65 lbs so far. The black circles under my eyes have really come up. My face has always been my saving grace. I was never ugly, but now I feel old for my age.

Now on the other hand I (we) may suffer from what I call "the fat girl idea". We do not see ourselves the way others see us. I went from a size 24 to a 12/14 mostly 14 right now. But soon I will be in a 12. That is new for me I have not been a size 12 since I was 15. Do we really know what we will look like? Just think better!!!!!! Because our worst enemy is ourselves.

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It kinda crossed my mind too. My neck and shoulders are very skinny so to me makes my head look bigger. But I still decided to start growing my hair out a little as a distraction. Now my nose looks bigger. I figure my face will get thinner and then the wrinkles will set in.

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After all this time imagining what i would look like thin - I could be hideous. But I guess in reality no matter what I will look better than I did before - that is - healthy.

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I know what you mean. I feel great at goal weight, but my face does look older now that I am thinner. I was a low bmi, but even so, 40 lbs, sure did make my dark circles appear more and my collar bones stick out, my ass droops, so do my boobs and the cellulite is more apparent and well I guess you take the good with the bad. And I do look really nice in clothes, but when they are gone, that is a whole other story..

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I love the way I look now. Younger, healthier and happier. That, to me anyway, is far more attractive than fat, unhappy and unhealthy.

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I think most of you are younger than I am but I do worry a bit about how my face and neck will look. My stomach too. I did this surgery mostly because I am diabetic. I was staying out of control too much and my friend said the surgery cured diabeties sometimes. I am trying to remember that. I did not feel I had a choice. Get the surgery and live longer or die early.

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I think I'll look better (although with more wrinkles and lots of saggy skin!), but when my mom had her gastric bypass, it was really weird. At 53 she had virtually no wrinkles, but she was 150 lbs overweight! Now that she's about 130 lbs, she's had a couple of face lifts and other various plastic surgeries to get rid of wrinkles. It's not that she's vain, but that instead of always looking younger than her age, she looked older!

The really funny part of it to me is that people always asked me if I even recognized my mom since she'd lost so much weight (she was overweight for most of my life, expect for short times when any given diet was successful). The truth is that now when I look at pictures from when she was heavy, that's who I don't recognize! To me, how she looks now is how I always saw her, even when it wasn't how she really looked.

I think that looking and being healthy (and then dressing the part!) always looks better than being overweight.

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Maybe as we loose weight, since we can no longer focus on being fat, we focus on some other minor imperfection. Maybe some of us develope body dismorphic disorder or our disorder starts focusing on something else. Who knows!

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I know what you mean. I feel great at goal weight, but my face does look older now that I am thinner. I was a low bmi, but even so, 40 lbs, sure did make my dark circles appear more and my collar bones stick out, my ass droops, so do my boobs and the cellulite is more apparent and well I guess you take the good with the bad. And I do look really nice in clothes, but when they are gone, that is a whole other story..

hahah I was just thinking the same thing..I look HOTT in clothes..take them off ugh

Now thats Ive lost so muvh weight Im noticing that I am really not as pretty as I was hoping to be..Kinda thought there might be a swan under the fat..nope! lol

My sister is famous for double sided compliments..her new fav for me is..O tiff your face is so thin now, it makes your ears look even bigger!:faint:

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I was 190lbs and a size 10 about 2 1/2 years ago when I lost 80lbs so I can only really go by that. Losing weight then definitely made me look a lot prettier. I was complimented on my face (and body) all the time and was hit on by men a lot more than I could have ever imagined. I have heard of women losing weight and their lines and such becoming more evident. I'm only 21 so I'm hoping I have no wrinkles hinding just yet...Also, I find people who lose weight and become unhealthy don't look as vibrant as they did with a nicely rounded face and more meat on their bones.

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