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I had my revision DS surgery last June 3 20201. Had a blockage from surgery on June 4th stayed in the hospital for 3 weeks. Just had another blockage 2 months ago and had surgery again. This time he removed the blockage and a ton of scar tissue. Well, my big problem is I have lost 215lbs. I started at 565lbs and am down to 350lbs. I am going nuts, I can't loose another pound to save my life. I tried the whole Krispy Kreme thing it was a no go. I am doing Premier Protein shakes. They told me to do 80mg of Protein a day, but I cut back. I don't feel like I have lost a thing. I had plans by now. Skin removal, boob job, and neck fixed. Now I am a failure. I feel like my family looks at me as if I wasted my chance, like I did with the gastric bypass 10 years ago. I haven't. I take my Vitamins and do everything right. Is there a diet pill or something someone recommends? The only weight I lost was a month ago when I got direaha for 4 days straight. 😪 thanks Jamie

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Have you tried a bariatric therapist? Getting to the root of my disordered eating habits was critical for me to reach goal and maintain. Are you tracking every crumb you eat? I know that sounds critical, but it isn't meant to be....I genuinely thought I was eating a LOT less than I was until I started measuring and tracking absolutely every calorie that went into my body. Yes, it's a hellish pain in the ass. And sadly, it's necessary.

You have lost 215 pounds. That is a HUGE accomplishment! I'm crazy proud of you and you should be, too. Sometimes when your body loses a metric feck ton of weight in a short period of time....a starvation defense mechanism kicks in and it plateaus for a while. Be patient and stick to good lifelong habits, a good balanced diet. If you're tracking, measuring and mindfully watching what and why you eat....you'll get there. Hang in there!

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Thank you so much! I will keep in mind for sure of everything I eat and thank you for being proud of me. Most of my family could care less. Basically the only support I had was my husband. Everyone else was like that's good or didn't say a dang word at all. All I wanted was one wow after Everyone saw me. Now my goal is to hit 299 then 250 and so on. I am doing it for me and my kids.

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Talk to your surgeon ASAP and they will discuss options for you . As for a pill, ask your doc about phentermine. It helps. It’s short term but it got me back on track when I gained 20 lbs during Covid times. I lost it all now and I’m doing great again … still trying to lose more though. I eat very low carbs which helps a lot . Good luck and you have done great so far!! Give yourself credit for that!

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What's "the whole krispy kreme thing" ...?

Also, I'd love to say I have advice for you, but I'm pre-op. I do, however, want you to know I'm rooting for you, you've done great so far!

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You’ve lost 215lbs? That’s amazing. Congratulations. Though I’m sorry you had problems after your DS surgery.

I agree with @Creekimp13’s suggestion to see a therapist. They’ll support you work through any emotional issues you may have & provide strategies to help you do the head work needed to be successful in this process. I wasn’t an avid calorie counter but did random checks. It’s easy to overestimate portion size, calorie content & the nutritional content of what you’re eating. It is a pain but very worthwhile. I’d also suggest contacting your nutritionalist (or finding one who specialises in bariatric patients) to review your diet & make suggestions.

Of course, if you are doing all the right things, it could be a stall. Most last 1-3 weeks but that’s the average, some do last longer. They are the worst but sometimes your body just needs time to catch up with all the changes, like your weight loss, reduced calories, dietary changes, increased activity, etc.

You’ve got a great cheer squad in your husband (ignore your family) & your children are a great motivation. There’s always support & advice here too.

All the best.

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On 6/13/2021 at 8:19 AM, Creekimp13 said:

Have you tried a bariatric therapist? Getting to the root of my disordered eating habits was critical for me to reach goal and maintain. Are you tracking every crumb you eat? I know that sounds critical, but it isn't meant to be....I genuinely thought I was eating a LOT less than I was until I started measuring and tracking absolutely every calorie that went into my body. Yes, it's a hellish pain in the ass. And sadly, it's necessary.

You have lost 215 pounds. That is a HUGE accomplishment! I'm crazy proud of you and you should be, too. Sometimes when your body loses a metric feck ton of weight in a short period of time....a starvation defense mechanism kicks in and it plateaus for a while. Be patient and stick to good lifelong habits, a good balanced diet. If you're tracking, measuring and mindfully watching what and why you eat....you'll get there. Hang in there!

This was one of the best encouraging posts I have seen here. You should seriously consider being a life coach! 🙂 Great explanations too.

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On 6/13/2021 at 8:41 AM, Texasjamie said:

Thank you so much! I will keep in mind for sure of everything I eat and thank you for being proud of me. Most of my family could care less. Basically the only support I had was my husband. Everyone else was like that's good or didn't say a dang word at all. All I wanted was one wow after Everyone saw me. Now my goal is to hit 299 then 250 and so on. I am doing it for me and my kids.

I am in a similar boat with very little family support as my siblings live in another state, I'm not married, and my parents have passed away. I'm also trying to navigate dating apps, pcos, and infertility at the same time and living in a new town! (I'm about an hour south of you!) I lost 50% of my excess weight and did nothing about losing the rest for years (til now) so I have essentially been plateaued for 7 years but didn't watch what I ate or restrict myself further to lose more weight. I just tried to stick with healthy eating for the most part and was able to maintain. We have got this though! We know what we need to do and just need to keep chipping away at this bit by bit, day by day!

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