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I think I'm an unusual case. I had RNY three months ago. I can eat almost anything, as long as it's in moderation. The only time I have "dumped" is when I foolishly scarfed down a bagel from Dunkin' Donuts when I was in a hurry to eat at work before a meeting. If I had chewed slowly and mindfully, and only eaten half the bagel with cream cheese, I would have tolerated it with no issues. I love my surgery. One of my worst fears pre-surgery is that I wouldn't be able to enjoy Mexican food again, which is my favorite food on the planet. I can! But I only eat about a quarter of what I used to, and feel very satisfied. PLUS I get a ton of yummy leftovers to take to work!

Here's my final take. The main reason why I love this surgery is that food is no longer this constant, mentally-intrusive, all-consuming desire for me like it used to be. I'm not consumed by gnawing hunger and spending all my free will just trying to keep the monster at bay. Food is just...food. I don't obsess over it. I'm not overly hungry. I just feel...normal. I still enjoy eating and a little goes a very long way. I feel like I have my life back.

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On 4/1/2021 at 10:14 PM, Rhapsody43 said:

Does anyone here regret having had gastric bypass surgery? I’m still in the preop stage. I keep hearing about the downsides: adhesions, forever being careful of what to eat, dumping, stricture, malabsorption, etc. I’m getting scared to move forward. Part of me feels like I can lose weight with my doctors help (I’ve already lost 40 pounds, 80 to go). The other part of me says okay, you have surgery and lose the weight then what?? You’re stuck with the side effects? I’m getting scared and about to talk myself out of it. I’d like to hear your story and of you had similar thoughts are you still happy with the surgery?

Part of me says I should have been able to do this without surgery but lets face it I didnt. I also didnt lose 40lbs before surgery like yourself. I will say this I am on meds that I will never be able to get off of now and that does cause me anxiety and still knowing all of this I would do it again because being morbidly obese consumed my life and thats one monkey off my back ! Good luck

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NONE. ZERO. NADA. NIX. Best think I have ever done!!!! And why the bypass and not the sleeve? I lost 83 lbs on the sleeve (took one year) and it's been fantastic on so many levels. In fact, I am 67 years old (10 years out) and take no medication (I was on cholesterol and blood pressure meds) and I feel great. I wrote a book called Queen of Crop about my first year (one chapter for each week). It was a grand adventure. I am now in the process of writing Queen of Crop - Ten years after. Because I have gained 15 lbs of the 83 I lost. But seriously, I felt so FREE from food and diets for so many years. It's a personal decision of course but I will tell you, for me, best decision of my life!!!!

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Yes...my regret tho is not following through and getting comfortable. Had my VSG in July 2016, lost 80 lbs that first year then started eating and pushing the limits. Hence I gained back 50 of the 80 lost. I just had revision from VSG to RNY last week and I was told I wouldn't lose much that don't expect the same results with revision. Im not screwing up this third and final chance. I will be the exception and lose the 50+ I gained back.

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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