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So do you refer to yourself with the F- word?

--side note--that reminded me of Seasme Street, I can picture Elmo, Today kids the letter is Ff. As in fat. Flubber, freaking large, flab..haha--

Just curious? I mean everyone pretty much does on here, which is ok because if we werent all fat at one point then itd be a lil silly to be on here...

I mean like when talking to "normal" sized people, or anyone..

For ex: "I couldn't get my fat a** outta bed this morning"

I never did that..still cant..I might make references to being bigger, like I cant sit on your lap the chair would break..but never fat..just wondering and Im advoiding studing for two VERY important tests tomorrow

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The only two "normal" sized people I have referred to myself as fat to are my best friend and my boyfriend. Both are former "fat" people as well. Best friend lost all her weight 3+ years ago with gastric and is now "normal" and boyfriend lost a bunch of weight (before I knew him) on his own.

Either then those two specific people, no I've never called myself fat to anyone that's "normal" to the best of my recollection. I don't like being called fat, why should I call myself that - especially in front of people who can obviously see that I'm fat and don't know what it's like to be me.

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I did and still do. I was the girl who always tried to make fun of myself before someone else could do it. Now it is just more of a habit than anything else. I am still fat but not grossly obese as I was 10 months ago. I know i should probably stop doing it but I will probably have to discuss that one with a therapist lol.

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I used to use the fat-word. Whenever I was shopping for clothes I would ask the saleshelp where the size Fat clothes were. :faint: I figured that I was fat and that I needed clothes and that was the plain and tragic truth. If the saleshelp wanted to get embarassed on my behalf, let 'em, I thought. It wasn't my problem. :( Buying clothes that fit and that I liked was my problem. I used to find these encounters quite amusing, to tell you the truth. :heh:

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I don't have a problem with the word fat. I don't go around calling myself a fat ass or negative names, but I will refer to myself as fat. I am fat. I don't see what the big deal is. People have come up with too many words for what. big boned, hefty, heavy, large, stocky, robust, plump=fat

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This guy at work refers to himself as "the fat man". He's probably got about 50 lbs to lose, doesn't seem all that fat to me, but he said one day "even without the gut, I'd be a fat man, it's a mentality".

That said, when I was at my highest weight, I didn't refer to myself as fat until about 6 months before my surgery, when I really started looking at myself. Now I'll say things like "When I was fatter". Every now and then I'll hear myself say "When I was fat" as if I'm not now. I'm hovering between 195 and 210 at the moment, which isn't huge, but I still see myself as fat. The longer I sit around this weight, the bigger I seem to see myself. It's weird.

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I was a bit of a joker too, you know, make the joke first, then nobody else will kind of thing. I would call myself fat without hesitation.

Yet in some weird way, i didnt really think I was. Like I thought I could dress to hide it and I didnt see it when I looked in the mirror. I knew it but I didnt.

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I'm hovering between 195 and 210 at the moment, which isn't huge, but I still see myself as fat. The longer I sit around this weight, the bigger I seem to see myself. It's weird.

Im the same way.. not really fat anymore, but still see myself as that..might have to have this discussion with my therapist!

Even though I might refer to fat, like ugh my fat rolls suck (which I think everyone probally agrees theirs do) I never called myself that..even if I did in my head,..it was a whisper..if you can whisper in your head that is.

My mother has a weight issue too and growing up, when my sisters and I grew into our teenager attitudes- we'd get in way more trouble for saying something like get your fata** up and get it yourself, then calling each other the B-word..this was to my older sister..NOT my mother..good lord I wouldn't be walking yet if I said THAT to my mother! :paranoid And I know its a good thing that we werent allowed to, but now I have this adversion to the word...its a bad word..like the N-word or something..odd I know

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I did and still do. I was the girl who always tried to make fun of myself before someone else could do it. Now it is just more of a habit than anything else. I am still fat but not grossly obese as I was 10 months ago. I know i should probably stop doing it but I will probably have to discuss that one with a therapist lol.

Ditto on this.....

And definately in the cafeteria at work yesterday when a woman walked up to me, placed her hand on my stomach and asked me if I was expecting.

"Nah," I said, " I am just FAT."

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Ditto on this.....

And definately in the cafeteria at work yesterday when a woman walked up to me, placed her hand on my stomach and asked me if I was expecting.

"Nah," I said, " I am just FAT."

OMG I would've died..seriously the fallen on the floor..dead as a doorknob which was never alive, but thats beside the point..cause of death..embrassment, concussion from falling and a heart attack from the sheer pain of thinking someone thought I was pregnant! I thought that only happened in the movies..guess I give people credit for intelligence they dont have..

I mean seriously even if you were pregnant, would you want her touching your stomach?! Unless you are Buddha and give people good luck for belly rubs a persons tummy is a weird place to put a hand..I guess its better than having someone grab your ass..course at this point in my life :) that might not be so bad! sorry off topic on that one!

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OMG I would've died..seriously the fallen on the floor..dead as a doorknob which was never alive, but thats beside the point..cause of death..embrassment, concussion from falling and a heart attack from the sheer pain of thinking someone thought I was pregnant! I thought that only happened in the movies..guess I give people credit for intelligence they dont have..

I mean seriously even if you were pregnant, would you want her touching your stomach?! Unless you are Buddha and give people good luck for belly rubs a persons tummy is a weird place to put a hand..I guess its better than having someone grab your ass..course at this point in my life :) that might not be so bad! sorry off topic on that one!

I guess it really didn't offend me because I know come January I will be on my way to band land. Like a supervisor once told me when on my annual review she said I needed to work on my "soft skills", "It's not a bad thing, your just have little patience for stupid people." ROTFLMAO :heh:

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I've never used it in reference to myself much, but will 'own' it when need be. Someone said something about me being fat in front of my GrandDoll when she was about 7. She got upset and tho't it hurt me. I decided to not tip-toe around it too much, I wanted her to know that it could only 'hurt me' if I let it.

Now, what bothers me MORE than someone saying that "I" am fat....is for someone who's obviously WAY smaller than I am going on and on and on and on and on about how FAT THEY are.

I'm like, "If YOU'RE fat -- Miss Size 9 -- then I'm a freakin' BLUE WHALE!"

For some reason that's far more insulting!

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I have been fat all my life and have called myself that. I tend to use the word "chubby" or "big girl". I am what I am....

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