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I had my surgery almost exactly 3 years ago and didn't tell anyone other than 2 friends who live halfway around the world and are not connected to any of my other friends, family, or co-workers. I wasn't going to tell anyone, but then I thought someone should know in case something happens to me. When people asked about my weight loss I focused on the the low carb/portion control aspect of what I was doing (which, let's face it, is what leads to long-term success).

I'm going for my revision surgery in a month's time and this time no one will know. The only people I would be willing to tell are some friends who are also morbidly obese - but only if they asked me specifically about it. In a few years time, when I am hopefully in maintenance mode, I think I would be more willing to talk about it openly, but while I'm still struggling, it's not something I can really talk about. I live in a country that has one of the lowest overweight/obesity rates in the world, so it's not like there are a lot of people out there who have a shared life experience that I can talk to about it.

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I don’t consider my medical history a secret, it’s personal and private. It’s up to me who I share that with.

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I regretted telling people when I had the band...... I have never regretted not telling about the sleeve... I agree with @Cheeseburgh I consider it personal and private.

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I told my son and my sister after I told them I hated I did

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I am in the early stages of pre-op but I will will be most certainly keeping WLS private as much as possible. It will be on a needs to know basis only and that wouldn't be too many for me.

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We were told not to tell people. If people asked how you did it say “are less and exercised more”. I did not even tell my husband and son until two weeks before surgery. Once I made up my mind I did not want any negativity, comments or opinions. Be prepared for friendships to change once you lose weight. This will be a test of who your true friends really are. You will be so happy and looking so good you won’t care😍.

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Hi , I’m new on the forum but I had a gastric bypass on 1/29/20 and only told my husband and my mother. I have a circle of friends that just won’t understand and a bunch of family members that will treat me like I didn’t earn my weight loss and I don’t want to deal with any of that so I’m keeping it secret. Clusie has a great super funny video on YouTube on lies you can tell to help keep surgery a secret. I found her videos super helpful.

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