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sara21

By sara21, in Tell Your Weight Loss Surgery Story

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girlinnyc    0

girlinnyc
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Hi my name is sara . AND i WILL BE BANDED ON DEC 21,2007 AND I CANT WAIT TO START MY NEW LIFE.:)

sara--good luck with your surgery and new life to come!

best wishes,

girlinnyc

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IndioGirl55    32

IndioGirl55
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Welcome - please ck this link for some of your questions

Like What's PBing - sliming - how to get a ticker etc

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f18/you-new-do-you-have-questions-come-here-45254/

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sara21    0

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:)my surgeon is dr. jeffery strain checked him out spoke to a few people that have had the lap band done by him is good.

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fat&thrifty    0

fat&thrifty
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Hi Sara21, I too, am a newbie (but an oldie). I've been reading this forum for the past month searching for info. The decision is finally made to have the surgery. My husband and I will go to Mexico for it. He has a ton of health problems that necessitate the surgery, but our insurance wants him to jump through hoops for a long time before they say IF it can be authorized. Me, I've been overweight since birth! Also with health issues, but nothing as life threatening as my husbands.

Glad to be joining such a strong community as this forum.

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sweetmo    0

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Hello all i am new to this site i am due to be banded in dec date no offically set by doctor. But i had a question and i was qondering if ity was just me when anyone spoke to there doctor and he told you what steps to take was his man chat nothing more than a put down. he made me feel like i was worthless and not worthy of being a person because i was a big person . he told me that after the surgery i would look like a victoria supermodel never once did he say anything about me being healthy i am doing this surgery to be healthy and not to be a skinny supermodel now i am deeply depressed about doing this surgery please shed some light on what i should do. he is an awesome surgeon and has won numerous awards but his bedside personality is no joke

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Bigpetit    0

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Hi Sara21, I too, am a newbie (but an oldie). I've been reading this forum for the past month searching for info. The decision is finally made to have the surgery. My husband and I will go to Mexico for it. He has a ton of health problems that necessitate the surgery, but our insurance wants him to jump through hoops for a long time before they say IF it can be authorized. Me, I've been overweight since birth! Also with health issues, but nothing as life threatening as my husbands.

Glad to be joining such a strong community as this forum.

same here. been reading and asking questions. This has been very helpful and im also in the process of finding and deciding who in Mexico is the best option all the way around.

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WASaBubbleButt    41

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Hello all i am new to this site i am due to be banded in dec date no offically set by doctor. But i had a question and i was qondering if ity was just me when anyone spoke to there doctor and he told you what steps to take was his man chat nothing more than a put down. he made me feel like i was worthless and not worthy of being a person because i was a big person . he told me that after the surgery i would look like a victoria supermodel never once did he say anything about me being healthy i am doing this surgery to be healthy and not to be a skinny supermodel now i am deeply depressed about doing this surgery please shed some light on what i should do. he is an awesome surgeon and has won numerous awards but his bedside personality is no joke

I have to be honest here. If a doctor is going to upset and depress you to this point merely by suggesting that you will look better after surgery, are you sure you are ready for surgery?

I don't think any of us are in this to be skinny super models but quite frankly, many of us are in this to look better. Some are in it for appearance, some for health, some for necessity.

Before surgery we all have a lot of doubts and wonder if this is right for us. That's normal. Others are looking for a reason to put it off. I'm not suggesting you are one of these people, I don't know one way or another.

But if something like that is going to depress you to this degree you better get ready for a WHOLE lot more of it after you have surgery. People you haven't spoken to in years will be making comments.

What your doc said was probably meant to be supportive. If you can't handle that you won't be able to come close to handling the negative comments after surgery such as:

How much do you weigh now?

How much did you weigh at your fattest?

Why aren't you losing faster?

Why did you take the "easy" way out? (Easy my butt!)

Most try to be quite supportive but some people are just stupid. If your doc suggesting that you will look better after surgery is going to depress you, perhaps you need to reconsider if you have what it takes to do this.

Sorry, just some old timer tough love here.

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kjl315    1

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Hello all i am new to this site i am due to be banded in dec date no offically set by doctor. But i had a question and i was qondering if ity was just me when anyone spoke to there doctor and he told you what steps to take was his man chat nothing more than a put down. he made me feel like i was worthless and not worthy of being a person because i was a big person . he told me that after the surgery i would look like a victoria supermodel never once did he say anything about me being healthy i am doing this surgery to be healthy and not to be a skinny supermodel now i am deeply depressed about doing this surgery please shed some light on what i should do. he is an awesome surgeon and has won numerous awards but his bedside personality is no joke

Hi sweetmo:

How much research have you done on this doctor? If he's just concentrating on the cosmetic aspects of weight loss, he might be one of the "weekend seminar" doctors who are only in it for a quick buck. Try posting a request on the Doctors and Hospitals forum http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f11/ to see if anyone else has had any experience with you doctor.

Good luck.

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