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I am at the end of my required insurance requirements. But I should be excited, but before I started this process I was already depressed. From babysitting my grandchildren, day and night not a moment for me. While I have the time this week but I am doing nothing. I should because I don't have the little one I do have the 9yr old (she mostly takes care of herself) my daughter is on vacation. I am staying up all night sleeping all day. My house work is not being completed. Have a son who just overdosed, scared the crap out of me and his drug use is driving me crazy. Plus my marriage has been hard but it's our 37 anniversary this Wednesday. For some reason we really don't talk. He sits in other room, watching TV and on his fb and I sit in the living room on phone. He fusses because I am on the phone all the time but it's my only connection to the outside word. I do postive things online as well, I read my Bible, do research and do other productive things. I just need to do something for me. I have put everyone first to long and need to do something for myself, instead of seating on this couch and die. For some reason I don't want to go get in bed with him, I just fall asleep on my couch. I know I could do better for him but I am just worn out. I know he works hard for us but of but I am just so depressed. My health mentally and physically needs this surgery. I know the surgery itself, you go through depression but I know eventually on this journey, I will feel more postive. Then I will rise up and take care of them and find myself in this process. I wanted to share with all of you. Hoping this a place where I might not be judged. Thanks for letting me cry on your shoulder, per say. Thanks Again.

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Depression is hard. I would not expect the surgery to cure it. The weight loss can certainly help but I would highly suggest getting counseling now and after the surgery to help you. Best of luck to you!

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Have you considered counseling? Not marriage counseling, but just for yourself to work through some of these issues? They're not going to change post-surgery.

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I was severely depressed before surgery. Today I feel so much better and I love shopping for clothes. You will get there. Please take care of yourself, I know it is hard. Your story is almost identical to mine.

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47 minutes ago, GradyCat said:

Have you considered counseling? Not marriage counseling, but just for yourself to work through some of these issues? They're not going to change post-surgery.

THIS! I have been through both types at different stages in life. BOTH are very beneficial for different reasons. But as the cliché goes you truly get out of it what you put into it. I really do wish you the best with everything! Sending Hugs!

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Have you considered counseling? Not marriage counseling, but just for yourself to work through some of these issues? They're not going to change post-surgery.
I actually see a therapist but the physiracterist that test me for my insurance approval said he wanted me to come see him every 3mths after the surgery and maybe then I might get it together. The have medicine and finally have that regulated. I think it just seating here why life passes me by.

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I was severely depressed before surgery. Today I feel so much better and I love shopping for clothes. You will get there. Please take care of yourself, I know it is hard. Your story is almost identical to mine.
It's good that someone understands.

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