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debra102364

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debra102364    148

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We can be the harshest person to ourselves. We get enough negative from those around at times and it we are not positive we may believe their lies. We get upset our letting our body and health get so bad. We lose weight then it's the loose skin and things we have to work out in or lives even emotionally. Try to keep this post in mind and speak positive everyday. Get going tell us great things about you.72b7180ac2fbb6d7a4aad9e1efd710d4.jpeg

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And I am a willing slave to Squeaky and Cassie! Squeaky is on my lap right now, told her " Mommy Human has to leave in a few minutes" she looked at me like " So What!" She is the Sun, Tomkitten and I are just planets that revolve around her. And she feels that's just the way things have to be. I should have her self-confidence, I would have informed Late Husband I was going to have Bariatric Surgery, because our then- insurance covered it and had my surgery at 40 or 50. Instead I stayed brow-beaten, sub-servient and didn't burp without his permission, that's how girls in the 40s, 50s and into the early 60s were raised! A MRS was the only desirable degree to get and up,inever bucked the tradition. I was grossly unfair to ME! And now look what the Real Me is, strong, an individual who can and does stand on her own two feet, and I settled for so little then. Why'why-why? Nobody respected me for ut!

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debra102364    148

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And I am a willing slave to Squeaky and Cassie! Squeaky is on my lap right now, told her " Mommy Human has to leave in a few minutes" she looked at me like " So What!" She is the Sun, Tomkitten and I are just planets that revolve around her. And she feels that's just the way things have to be. I should have her self-confidence, I would have informed Late Husband I was going to have Bariatric Surgery, because our then- insurance covered it and had my surgery at 40 or 50. Instead I stayed brow-beaten, sub-servient and didn't burp without his permission, that's how girls in the 40s, 50s and into the early 60s were raised! A MRS was the only desirable degree to get and up,inever bucked the tradition. I was grossly unfair to ME! And now look what the Real Me is, strong, an individual who can and does stand on her own two feet, and I settled for so little then. Why'why-why? Nobody respected me for ut!
I so understand the delima I was 17yrs when I got married been with the same man for 34yrs. He treats me just like that. I even carry is food to him in the man's cave (as they like to call it). I had surgery on my thumb in January wasn't supposed use it for 6weeks. He got tired working and coming home and having to take care of cooking. He brought food home one day and threw food on the table and said there it is. It definitely was a different time and for some us a do it to the end kind of girl but we do need that respect and love ourself enough to speak up in confidence. Glad you have come a long way and learned that your special too. Glad you have your fur babies.

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Tha,ks Debra, we have a lot of sisters in the outside world. And my fur babies do brighten my daily life!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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