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I have have my consultation for my surgery just feeling like i dont fully have support. Like last night was trying to talk with my kids about dinner and everything they were suggesting i was telling them i couldnt cause they wouldnt cause they wouldnt help me with keep me from gaining weight and then was laughing at me for trying to get healthy for them and myself. And make me wanna second guess myself if i should check my motives why i should be doing this or who is helping me doing it. Anyone else ever else go threw this

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That's tough if you have family at home counteracting your good decisions. Try to hang in there and make this decision for your own health and for yourself.

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I have have my consultation for my surgery just feeling like i dont fully have support. Like last night was trying to talk with my kids about dinner and everything they were suggesting i was telling them i couldnt cause they wouldnt cause they wouldnt help me with keep me from gaining weight and then was laughing at me for trying to get healthy for them and myself. And make me wanna second guess myself if i should check my motives why i should be doing this or who is helping me doing it. Anyone else ever else go threw this
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Hi, I can understand your frustration. You must remember to put yourself first. Most kids just don't have the support to give especially at the start of this journey.
This journey takes a mind shift. It is going to take a daily fight with yourself to get your goals. Don't set yourself up to have to fight with them too! This is a great place for support and other sights. Sometimes we have to learn to be selfish. This is your body and health.


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I agree with both previous posts! I am so sorry you are going through this right now; especially by family! That’s why I didn’t tell my parents or brothers...I know exactly how they would act. Thankfully my children understand, and have been helpful and encouraging! (My oldest 2 are in their 20’s though) It will be a transition for everyone. I hope their attitude changes soon for you! Maybe try talking to them again, and share your feelings. No matter what, focus all the more..this is for you! (((Hugs)))

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That's tough if you have family at home counteracting your good decisions. Try to hang in there and make this decision for your own health and for yourself.
Don't give up! The way they are acting, try to put it out of your mind, be strong and do what you have to do to get healthy. They will be amazed and proud of you once you get results.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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