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Hello!

I’m wondering about other people’s experiences dating or starting new relationships during that first year of major weight loss with the sleeve. Also, did dating get easier after weight loss? Asking for a friend...... hahahaha.

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I am married, so I don't have any experience with dating after WLS. However, it is obvious that dating gets easier after WLS in the sense that you will have more dates. While you may look more attractive shedding some of those excess pounds, the fact that you feel better about yourself will make you more appealing to prospective suitors. The change in self-esteem and confidence is a big factor in improving your love life post-surgery (there are actually studies that have been done on this). That same boost in self-esteem an confidence can actually have the opposite effect for married WLS patients, who develop more confidence and are no longer willing to put up with their spouse's BS (which usually pre-existed the surgery). So, you should expect finding dates to be easier after surgery---maybe not the first few months when you need to focus on recovery and getting into the swing of your new lifestyle, but certain a few months down the line.

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I met my boyfriend in March 2018 and had surgery in May 2018. We are still together now, but I’ve had a lot more people try to hit on me than before. Overall, I’m glad he was there for support from the beginning. Get someone who is open minded, but make sure they don’t eat all your leftovers because then they’ll begin to gain weight :)

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