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@Boldilocks
let us know how you are doing once home. Hope all is well with you and your recovery and that your husband is supporting you.

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Hi everyone - sorry, didn't mean to leave you all in suspense!

I got home last night and didn't have a good night and day with the pain. And my surgeon refused to give me any pain meds until my husband rang and gave him hard time. Then he gave me a 1 day script for Tramadol.

So, my husband. He surprised me. I sent him the text shortly after the surgery letting him know where I was and that I had left more info for him in the kitchen. He said that he understood why I had't told him, and that he didn't blame me. He was very supportive - but said that he probably wouldn't have been if he'd known beforehand.

He brought the girls to visit as soon as he got off work on Tuesday, and they stayed for 3 hours. He asked lots of questions and was reading some of the packet I left him.

He was there to pick me up right on time on Wednesday and said that he'd been up late reading up on it and wanted to know if I had a menu or anything he could look at so he could help. He brought Dunkin Donuts coffee and munchkins for the nurses like I asked, because they were so wonderful to me.

He called the out of hours doctor and got him to make my surgeon call back as I mentioned. He was really pissed they didn't give me better meds - I really was in a lot of pain. He has been supportive at the end, and that's good enough. He says that I definitely have made the right decision, and that I was very brave.

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So happy to hear he was supportive!

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Is your pain subsiding at all?

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Aww happy endings are the best! The pain is temporary... I know it’s hard to think that way when you’re in the thick of it, but it will pass.

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Wow so glad to hear he is being supportive and that you are doing well!! But no pain meds?!? Why wouldn’t they give you any? My doctor wouldn’t let me leave the hospital without them! I couldn’t even imagine.

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1 minute ago, sarar3 said:

Wow so glad to hear he is being supportive and that you are doing well!! But no pain meds?!? Why wouldn’t they give you any? My doctor wouldn’t let me leave the hospital without them! I couldn’t even imagine.

He just said to use Tylenol, and that in 15 years of practice he had never had anyone need more than that. Then he said that if I wanted to, I could alternate with Ibuprofen. I said that I thought I wasn't supposed to take that, and he said that I could take it if he said it was ok to take it.

It's fine when I'm still - but it's when I try to turn over in bed, or go from sitting to standing or sitting to lying that it hurts. It's not just the incision sites, but it feels like a clamp around my diaphragm and I can't breathe deeply. To be honest, it feels just like when I had my c-sections - and I was given meds for those!

It never occured to me that I'd have a major organ extracted and not receive pain meds.

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Yes that doesn’t make sense especially with the ibuprofen I was told I can never have that again!!!
I know everyone says it and it’s hard to believe right now but it will get better soon. I’m only 6 weeks out myself I had gastric bypass on 12/24. It’s been a roller coaster for sure! I know a lot of people sleep in a recliner for awhile..I don’t have one but I have a tempurpedic adjustable bed which got me through those rough days! I don’t think I could have done it without those pain meds!!! Maybe your primary doctor would prescribe you some?

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Boldilocks you've got me sniffling and smiling. Sniffling cause he actually came through for you at finals, smiling because your surgery is truly over and I am very proud of you. You were and are a very strong woman, and it is my pleasure to know you.😛🍀😛

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Happy for husband finally supportive if this, unhappy with ur Dr & no pain meds, Wow but don’t take ibuprofen it can cause ulcers & ya don’t want them. Possibly try slowly walking & when finally getting a bowel movements you should feel better .

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SWEET!!!!!!! I'm glad he's there now and knows how brave you really really are. The pain will subside. I'm told I can take ibuprofen as well, just make sure I have the Probiotics with it so it doesn't make an ulcer. The pain will go away once you start moving and that gas leaves.

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Glad to hear he is on board. I have a friend whose doc also does not provide pain meds. CRAZY. I had the ON-Q pain pump and it was AMAZING!

GO YOU! I'm so glad you did this!

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