Overheard Staff Joking About My Body

[KCgirl061 1,530]

I think you should absolutely write the surgeon and/or office manager. This behavior is unacceptable and they need to know about it. Don’t expect the shame and embarrassment of you catching them to alone to correct their attitude and behavior.

[Katherine28 15]

Report the HIPPA violation. Their behavior is unacceptable and as medical professionals they know HIPPA. If they did that to you, you better believe they do it to others. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m a nurse as well. I wouldn’t confront them, I’d let the investigation of the violation speak for itself. You’ve been through enough. .... just my two cents.

[Katherine28 15]

I see you wrote a letter. Sorry I didn’t read all the other posts, I just responded to your initial post. Good luck with this. I’m praying the outcome will be the best outcome for this situation.

[virginiaRN 60]

13 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

I'm sure they are the type of people that have been doing this all their lives... Bad behaviors don't start at 32

Oh and I forgot they violated a clause in the Hippocratic oath

"Into whatsoever houses I enter, I will enter to help the sick, and I will abstain from all intentional wrong-doing and harm, especially from abusing the bodies of man or woman, bond or free. And whatsoever I shall see or hear in the course of my profession, as well as outside my profession in my intercourse with men, if it be what should not be published abroad, I will never divulge, holding such things to be holy secrets."

Word. Definitely violated this.

[virginiaRN 60]

12 hours ago, superthin said:

In my mind I’m picturing a Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman scene, where she tells the nasty lady in the store, “big mistake”. Lol, my mind just goes there. Seriously though, I’m really pissed off on your behalf, definitely file a report. Just know that you are an amazing warrior, fighting cancer and losing all that weight!! We all have your back!

That would have been completely dope to say. I will keep that in mind for (god forbid) future episodes. Thanks!

[virginiaRN 60]

6 hours ago, Saddy said:

I’ve been through hell and back. What would I do? Let their boss know, get over and move on. You don’t want to spend all your good energy hitting over someone who is not really all that important in your life. It’s already happened, you can’t change a thing. What you can change is your way of thinking. Place your energy onto something you enjoy rather than these idiots.

Personally, I am over it. I was pretty much over it the next day. Having been heavy most of my life, I've been called much worse, in much more public circumstances, and cried real tears over it. My skin is old leather at this point. As a card-carrying member of the medical profession, I do feel an implicit and explicit duty to protect other patients from this type of behavior. Ironically, as a Family Nurse Practitioner, I will be giving referrals to practices of various specialties. This will not be one of them. Just last spring, in my first Family Nurse Practitioner rotation, I referred all my patients who were interested in learning about bariatric surgery to a different practice because there have been a few other incidents with this practice (that I experienced and some of my co-workers experienced.) I must have referred 20 people to a different practice is 4 months. So, about 5 per month. I graduate in December. If I practice for 20 years (at least), that's 20 x 5 x 12= 1200 potential customers/patients. The surgeon is about my age, so he'll likely be practicing at least that long. I'm sure they'll get along just fine without my referrals, but I'm sure they would have liked them just the same. Just saying... Anyway, thanks for your support. #longgame

Edited August 19, 2018 by virginiaRN
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[RhondaRob 0]

That is awful sorry that you had that experience congratulations on your 5 year cancer free Journey and don't allow anyone to make you feel ashamed about your body I would have reported them good luck

[virginiaRN 60]

5 hours ago, RhondaRob said:

That is awful sorry that you had that experience congratulations on your 5 year cancer free Journey and don't allow anyone to make you feel ashamed about your body I would have reported them good luck

Yes ma'am. Scroll up. Reported. Thanks!

Edited August 19, 2018 by virginiaRN
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[Saddy 11]

VirginiaRN, you sound like an amazing woman. I think most of us who are here have had some sort of back lash re out bodies. But guess what, they know nothing about your heart. It hurts when you do something to help others like you do and then get a slap in the face in return. Yeah it sucks balls to be honest. Don’t change who you are. They’ll get theirs in time I can assure you. You’re stronger than you think, don’t let these in-important people get you down. Be positive, forget them and concentrate on you. :)

[GirlShrinking 110]

I am sorry you went through that.. I’ve been there myself and have also been on the other side (where the physician was criticizing the patient ) and I reported the doctor to the office manager which then got to the main office and that physician was terminated. It’s unacceptable and if they are so disgusted with what they’re seeing and having to deal with, then clearly they’re not in the profession to take care of people and only in it for the money.
I hope you find justice and that those people in that office are penalized for their actions. It shouldn’t have happened wether the patient can hear you or not
-x

[emmapundt93 15]

I’m sorry! That’s awful! I heard about co workers talking about my body once and I felt awful. But you are doing a great thing for yourself with school and weight loss and I think sometimes people get rude when people become successful. They want to find a way to put someone down because they feel bad about themselves. Keep your head up! You are doing great beautiful lady!

[Orchids&Dragons 9,047]

@virginiaRN How did this all turn out? Have you heard back?

[MNgirl1234 41]

I agree that they should be called to the carpet for this! It is completely inappropriate and unacceptable behavior! Contact an administrator at the hospital and request a sit down with them to address the behaviors of their employees. If not for yourself, do it for all the other prospective patients they have spoken about or treated poorly.

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[FluffyChix 17,410]

LOL, I Sunday morning necroposting.

[Frustr8 7,886]

Yeah but some of the Oldies were Goodies, always wonder how the posters are these days! Probably living maintainable level and still grateful for their surgeries.