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Am I the only one that gets annoyed by the number of women that post in the Guys' Room?

Please don't get me wrong, I have the utmost respect for women and consider them peers and equals.

I guess the rub is that women dominate, for obvious reasons (80/20), the general forum and I personally don't and rarely see men post in the Gals' room. It feels like an invasion of the one place that should be The Guys' Room. And, I've read the excuses about how they don't know there in here. To me, they are just that, excuses. I can read a URL just like everyone else.

Hope this doesn't start a $hit storm, just want some perspective. Oh and to be clear, I want it from the Men.

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I haven't been on here in ages, but I thought a reply might be in order. I remember this topic years back and I see it is still an issue. I realize the mens room is maybe to discuss male issues but really.....anyone can read them, including women, so having women respond in the mens room shouldn't be much different. Never know.....they might have something useful to contribute......even in a man's room, about male stuff.

So, my thoughts are......it's not likely to change so just go with the flow. And maybe you just throw a jab or two in the powder room.....;)

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Fair point well made. However, I think it's more about respecting boundaries. I respect theirs. I don't care who actually reads my posts, but when I post in the guys room it's because I'm looking for the Male perspective or comradeory. Otherwise I'd post it in the appropriate general forum.

Thanks for your comments and opinion.

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Personally, I respect the rules. It says "no men" in the women's room.. so I don't post or reply there. Just because someone CAN do something, doesn't mean they SHOULD do something. It's a respect thing, but I guess not everyone seems to care, I'll joke around and point it out to some members posting in the Guys' room... but I've seen others ask women not to post, or let them know it's the guys room... and they just don't care.

To me. It's about the rules and the respect in following the rules.

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@Matt Z

Thank you. My point exactly. I don't expect anything to change, but It feels good to vent.

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There are boundaries and then there are boundaries... and respect is respect. Although in my experience, I have received some helpful advice from women, on this site, for basic weight loss issues, this group by defining it as a 'Guys Group', should be left to men discussing issues related to men, even if the issues might have a broader general concerns. Hope everyone is getting ready for the weekend!

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9 hours ago, JConforti said:

Am I the only one that gets annoyed by the number of women that post in the Guys' Room?

No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I feel like it is a double standard. Like they can "accidentally" post here, but if someone posted in their sacred territory, there would be hell to pay.

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Oh man! Now you've done it! Lol

I totally agree with you. Respect the boundaries. Personally I think the excuse of "I didn't realize this was a guys only post is BS. I've never accidentally posted in the Gals Room. Just say'n....

On FB I'm only a member in the guys only groups. Reasons being...less drama, no candy coated backhanded compliments and straight talking honest talk even if it's something you dont want to hear but need to. If you screw up or act like a jerk you will get called out on it, but you will also get respect and support from those same guys.

I admit I read the other posts on this forum for women but I won't comment on them if I know it's for women only or a topic that I have no experience on. Just wish some of the ladies would do the same.

This all being said I'm certain a lady has read this, gotten angry and most likely will comment on this thread. Again, just say'n.

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In the end does it really matter. I'm sure there are trolls that post as men or vise versa.

It does annoy the $hit out of me when women post here but outside of being an a$$hole and possibly starting a $hitstorm what can you do? I think I commented once on someones post in here that a few women responded to. Just said "Thanks "Guys" for responding to his post" or something like that. I think I responded in a woman's post when I first came to this site and realized it almost right away. Also apologized right away and never went back. We know they read the posts here but like it's been said, we post here to hear men's responses and experiences. Just respect that and move on......

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BTW I read through this post a few days back

It bothered me quite a bit how the women were responding and not giving 2 $hits. There were some responses that were deleted so I don't know what sparked the whole thing but two years after a woman still had to have the last word and post a response. Nothing to do with the original topic/question but still had to pop in. Why do some people feel it entitled to but in and give their opinion when no one asked for it?

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There are a couple particular problems.

If using a mobile device and looking at new posts, it will not show the entire threaded view to see what specific group its in. I posted in the girls room for benign topics because of this, because I am not in the habit of scrolling riles at the topic heading for every single topic.

Secondly, the forum hoster surely can develop a way that locks out a particular group based on your gender profile.

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There are a couple particular problems.
If using a mobile device and looking at new posts, it will not show the entire threaded view to see what specific group its in. I posted in the girls room for benign topics because of this, because I am not in the habit of scrolling riles at the topic heading for every single topic.
Secondly, the forum hoster surely can develop a way that locks out a particular group based on your gender profile.
I'm using a mobile device and can clearly the thread it's in. Screenshot_20180811-083957_Gallery.jpeg

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drives me crazy, yes.

in fact, it's only a matter of time until a female posts in THIS thread.

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Here's the way I see it, women have a totally different chemical makeup than men do, hormones and etc.

When I post something in the guys room it's because I am a man, and I would like a man to reply, because I feel his experience would be more related to mine than a woman's would.

So I think the ladies should respect the guys room and the men that post in it, and that way you don't have to filter through replies that you feel feel like don't relate to you as a man.

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