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personal post, but whatever, we’re all adults here.

my surgery is on 7/25, but on 7/19 i had unprotected sex. i didn’t really think anything of it, but my friends have me paranoid. i have PCOS and just stopped my birth control a month ago (in prep for surgery- i’ll be continuing it after) so i really didn’t think anything of being unprotected and he did not finish inside me, but now they have me all nervous. do you guys think i’ll be okay???

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Really no way to know but generally with PCOS ovulation is not happening plus after getting off birth control it takes a few cycles to ovulate so chances are you are not pregnant if that is the concern. Plus, the odds of conception after 1 episode of unprotected sex are pretty low. But if you are really concerned you can postpone the surgery and take a test in a couple of weeks. T

Hope it all works out for you.

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well it was 3 times, not once 🙈 i’m not worried about it, i’m more just like “wait omg could my friends be right?”

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Well I do hope you don't get pregnant but a old joke from my era.
Question: What do you call a man who fails to use condoms?
Answer: Daddy!

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You had to get off birth control in preparation for surgery?? My surgeon stresses the importance of birth control/protection specifically to ensure that we don’t get pregnant too soon after surgery. Anyways, I fell pregnant with my third child after being infertile due to PCOS for years IMMEDIATELY after I quit taking my birth control. That drop in hormones stimulates ovulation. The fact that he didn’t “finish” in you would be the only reason I wouldn’t be too concerned. But it’s certainly still possible! I mean really the only thing you can do is take your chances and go ahead and have the surgery as planned or put it off until you can get a reliable negative pregnancy test result. It’s going to be a judgement call for you.

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On 07/22/2018 at 14:34, Chunkysoup said:

You had to get off birth control in preparation for surgery?? My surgeon stresses the importance of birth control/protection specifically to ensure that we don’t get pregnant too soon after surgery. Anyways, I fell pregnant with my third child after being infertile due to PCOS for years IMMEDIATELY after I quit taking my birth control. That drop in hormones stimulates ovulation. The fact that he didn’t “finish” in you would be the only reason I wouldn’t be too concerned. But it’s certainly still possible! I mean really the only thing you can do is take your chances and go ahead and have the surgery as planned or put it off until you can get a reliable negative pregnancy test result. It’s going to be a judgement call for you.
yeah, because of the risk of blood clots (i’m on the pill). i mean honestly whatever happens happens, i’m going to get my surgery and hope all is well. i’m only 22 anyways, made a dumb mistake that won’t happen again

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On 07/22/2018 at 14:20, Frustr8 said:

Well I do hope you don't get pregnant but a old joke from my era.

Question: What do you call a man who fails to use condoms?

Answer: Daddy!
i’m convinced your only job on this site is to make everyone laugh 😂

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On 07/22/2018 at 14:53, Tealael said:

Plan B is effective for 72 hrs

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i thought it only was effective if you’re under like 175lbs or something like that??

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i thought it only was effective if you’re under like 175lbs or something like that??
I don't believe its effective only by weight, but when was your cycle set to begin? Its only effective for a window and under certain circumstances. VSG2017 HW 249 SW 238 CW 167

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@saygrace - Ah yes, the risk of blood clots. 

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I did some quick research and there are increased risks, but more importantly, you will need to take a pregnancy test prior to surgery. That test may or may not detect pregnancy this early. Wouldn't you rather see your OBGYN and get there perspective? Plus... Pregnancy may not be the only risk since you are PCOS and ya know unprotected sex..

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On 07/22/2018 at 15:10, Tealael said:

I did some quick research and there is increased risks, but more importantly, you will need to take a pregnancy test prior to surgery. That test may or may not detect pregnancy this early. Wouldn't you rather see your OBGYN and get there perspective? Plus... Pregnancy may not be the only risk since you are PCOS

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wow thanks for doing research for me! i took a pregnancy test during my pre-op visit which was the day before i had sex, i’m not sure if they’ll give me another one the day of. but yes, i would rather see my OBGYN

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Most hospitals do a urine test when they admit you to pick up exactly this. I'll defer to the medical professionals on this board for verification, but every single time I've gone to the hospital for a procedure they've made me pee in a cup. It's always been for a pregnancy test.

If it comes back positive they won't operate. Pretty straightforward and other than telling them you had unprotected sex, you don't really need to do anything here.

(...and here of course is the unsolicited advice of DAMN, if you're only on a one-month birth control break which I assume means you don't want to be pregnant, why play Russian roulette like that? Condom! Condom condom condom! Spermicide! Condom! Diaphragm! Condom! Ack!)

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On 07/22/2018 at 15:11, sideeye said:



Most hospitals do a urine test when they admit you to pick up exactly this. I'll defer to the medical professionals on this board for verification, but every single time I've gone to the hospital for a procedure they've made me pee in a cup. It's always been for a pregnancy test.




If it comes back positive they won't operate. Pretty straightforward and other than telling them you had unprotected sex, you don't really need to do anything here.




(...and here of course is the unsolicited advice of DAMN, if you're only on a one-month birth control break which I assume means you don't want to be pregnant, why play Russian roulette like that? Condom! Condom condom condom! Spermicide! Condom! Diaphragm! Condom! Ack!)


ugh i know!! it was a heat of the moment type deal 😬 it won’t happen again, lol trust me!

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