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hey guys.

so at my last appointment the scale showed that i had gained about 3lbs. which is what i had expected between finals stress, graduation celebrations, etc. but they made a really big deal out of it. and i explained myself but i was also kind of like “hey i can’t easily lose weight... hence why i’m here?”

i was hoping to get surgery in july but because of my weight gain they have pushed it back to august. at first i was disappointed but now i’m mostly okay with it i guess. i’m just worried because they want me to lose weight (currently at 351 and they want me down to like 345). i know that isn’t a lot of weight, but it’s hard. that’s why i’m getting surgery!!! if you have any tips on losing weight before surgery can you let me know? i’ve been tracking my food with myfitnesspal and i’m under my calorie goal everyday. i’m just getting discouraged that i won’t be able to do it after surgery.

they also said if i don’t lose this weight my bmi puts me at higher risk for clots so i’ll have to be doing blood thinning shots. which i 1000% don’t want to do. also annoyed slightly because won’t i have to do a pre-op diet regardless that is going to shed weight? just confused/discouraged/frustrated and hoping someone has gone through this and can help me out. thanks in advance

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Not all calories are equal, your percentages of Protein, carbs and fat are also important. Also make sure to count all liquid calories you take in. Try not to drink soda or juices. Get rid of all starchy carbs (bread/rice/potato/pasta) and focus on all the yummy vegetables available in the summer. A little fruit is also okay. You might want to consider a ketogenic or paleo diet during this time which do decrease your appetite after a few days.

Eating off this plan is dangerous, I myself could easily gain 5 pounds in a weekend of "celebrating".

Also try for daily exercise and slowly build up to an hour per day.

Good luck!! One day at a time!!

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I was told my insurance won't even pay for it if I have any gain in the 6 mos pre op. It was explained by my primary care doctor as ...... "They don't want to waste the money paying if you can't comply. It is a tool and you still have to do your part."

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I was told my insurance won't even pay for it if I have any gain in the 6 mos pre op. It was explained by my primary care doctor as ...... "They don't want to waste the money paying if you can't comply. It is a tool and you still have to do your part."

there’s no problem with my insurance, it’s the surgeons personal preference at this point of wanting me to lose weight before she takes me into the operating room.


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Not all calories are equal, your percentages of Protein, carbs and fat are also important. Also make sure to count all liquid calories you take in. Try not to drink soda or juices. Get rid of all starchy carbs (bread/rice/potato/pasta) and focus on all the yummy vegetables available in the summer. A little fruit is also okay. You might want to consider a ketogenic or paleo diet during this time which do decrease your appetite after a few days.
Eating off this plan is dangerous, I myself could easily gain 5 pounds in a weekend of "celebrating".
Also try for daily exercise and slowly build up to an hour per day.
Good luck!! One day at a time!!

well the celebration is over now so it has been easier. i’ve been looking at my macros as well and i’m meeting them give or take a few % on either side. slowly cutting out Pasta and replacing it with protein pasta/pasta alternatives has actually been pretty easy! love veggies and fruit so that isn’t the hardest part. it’s probably exercise which right now is at about 30 min a day but i’m working my way up slowly. just feeling really discouraged all around.


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29 minutes ago, saygrace said:


there’s no problem with my insurance, it’s the surgeons personal preference at this point of wanting me to lose weight before she takes me into the operating room.

I only meant that possibly the surgeon was thinking along the same lines and wants to see compliance on your part before putting u through for approval. Just a thought.

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I was watching some episodes of Weight Loss Ward (UK, youtube) and the weight loss centre wouldn't even recommend people for surgery unless they had loss a set amount of weight in a set period of time. They wanted to see commitment and compliance.

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4 hours ago, saygrace said:


well the celebration is over now so it has been easier. i’ve been looking at my macros as well and i’m meeting them give or take a few % on either side. slowly cutting out Pasta and replacing it with Protein pasta/pasta alternatives has actually been pretty easy! love veggies and fruit so that isn’t the hardest part. it’s probably exercise which right now is at about 30 min a day but i’m working my way up slowly. just feeling really discouraged all around.

As much as we want to believe, it truly isn’t that much about exercise. It is all about diet. I wouldn’t even replace the Pasta, just eliminate it completely. And watch your fruit intake because fruit is sugar. If you can, just replace one meal with a protein supplement

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I noticed I started losing weight when I started eating Breakfast at breakfast time. Around 930am I'll have a Greek yogurt then my coffee. Even if I'm out hungry, which I never am that early, I force it. I snack only on fruit and veggies and she told me I need carbs and to not cut them out. She said all of this will change after surgery.. But I lost 10 pounds in three weeks by eating breakfast in the morning.

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6 minutes ago, sasa_maria said:

She said a balance of Protein and carbs is what I need before surgery

Its so funny how different everyones experiences seem to be. They have drilled in my head how important it was to dramatically decrease my carbs. They told me I would be going through enough changes that basically going cold turkey on carbs was something i didnt wanna be doing on top of everything else.

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On ‎5‎/‎19‎/‎2018 at 1:02 PM, Chrisb428 said:

I was told my insurance won't even pay for it if I have any gain in the 6 mos pre op. It was explained by my primary care doctor as ...... "They don't want to waste the money paying if you can't comply. It is a tool and you still have to do your part."

What insurance do you have?

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It could be "extreme" if your surgery isn't for another few months, but could you try the pre-op diet now and see how that works? If your surgeon's office even requires a pre-op diet....

My pre-op diet was like, 3 Protein Shakes a day and then broth, Jello, sugar free popsicles, etc. I had to do pre-op diet for a week and I lost 11lbs before surgery.

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It could be "extreme" if your surgery isn't for another few months, but could you try the pre-op diet now and see how that works? If your surgeon's office even requires a pre-op diet....
My pre-op diet was like, 3 Protein Shakes a day and then broth, Jello, sugar free popsicles, etc. I had to do pre-op diet for a week and I lost 11lbs before surgery.


this is what i was thinking of doing. i know my surgeon changes the pre-op diet requirements on a patient to patient basis so i’m not sure what my requirement will be time wise, etc but i was thinking maybe doing 2 shakes a day at least? to get started?

i guess perhaps i’m caught in between a mental spot of “do i really want to start shakes now when i have another month to *enjoy* myself” or “do i take care of myself and quit that childish attitude because i’ll still be able to eat food after surgery it’ll just be different?”

sorry if that doesn’t make sense, my head is all over the place lately.


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