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Hi Ladies!!

I'm 37, single mom with a 9 year old son. I want to one day get married, and have another baby before 40 years old BUTTTT hoping to have surgery in June. Should I wait til I've had another child OR move forward??

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Hmm... That's tough. I know that by losing more weight you'll be able to conceive better, but by giving yourself a time limit of 3 years to get married and have a baby... that's kind of hard. Do you have a significant other already? What do they think? Would you be able to keep the weight off when you conceive? Otherwise, might be best to wait. Your decision though!

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I had VSG two weeks ago and we will try for another when I weigh less. It is not two years out like many programs recommend, but we hope to start trying next December. My doc said it’s ok as long as it doesn’t happen in the first few months. By December I should be close to my goal weight, so time will tell.


Age: 37
Height: 5’6
BMI: 37
VSG: 4/16/18
GW: 160
MFP: Fit4LifeAR

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Hmm... That's tough. I know that by losing more weight you'll be able to conceive better, but by giving yourself a time limit of 3 years to get married and have a baby... that's kind of hard. Do you have a significant other already? What do they think? Would you be able to keep the weight off when you conceive? Otherwise, might be best to wait. Your decision though!

But seriously, I don't have a significant other right now. If I did, I would seriously consider having another before the surgery.

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Ahh, I see. That's such a tough decision! I say go through with the surgery, meet someone, and then start trying to conceive. At least if you get pregnant by 39-40 you'll be the best you possible!

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Hi Ladies!!
I'm 37, single mom with a 9 year old son. I want to one day get married, and have another baby before 40 years old BUTTTT hoping to have surgery in June. Should I wait til I've had another child OR move forward??



I would definitely move forward! A main reason for me to have the surgery is so I can be a healthy mom and have healthy pregnancies. Everyone throughout the Kaiser process has said I have to wait 2 years, but the surgeon said that’s not true, WLS won’t negatively effect future pregnancies, or delay them. Pregnancy will effect my weight loss, so once I’ve met my WL goal, or lost enough weight to be happy, I can get pregnant any time. It’s more about taking advantage of the great weight loss you have early on, rather than being physically ready for pregnancy.

It’s also more likely I’ll have healthy pregnancies if I’m at a lower rate, so it just makes sense for me not to wait!


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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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