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TakingABreak    2,733

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Hosting my family on Sunday for a pre-Easter get together. I'm making steak, per request. This will be the first time I've seen my brother since my surgery 9 weeks ago, and the first time I've eaten in front of most of my family. At least I am hosting, so I can run around cleaning and cooking and not look unsettled. This is also my first time cooking for a large group since surgery. I went to go buy steaks and I stood there in amazement at the size of them (Ribeyes & New York Strip specifically) . I used to eat one of those, a whole one! I'm looking forward to having normal traditions and getting over the fear that I don't fit into holidays when food is involved.

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Czuck1983    114

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Sounds like it's going to be a great time. I hope you have fun, and make sure you don't drive yourself too crazy running around making the day perfect.

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TakingABreak    2,733

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17 minutes ago, Czuck1983 said:

Sounds like it's going to be a great time. I hope you have fun, and make sure you don't drive yourself too crazy running around making the day perfect.

I'm a perfectionist to say the least, but more so a nurturer. I love hosting because I thrive on making sure everyone is fed, comfortable, and happy. But good advice, I'll try and take it easy ;)

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I had a thought, and I'm not sure how I would do it, but possibly have something planned for your gathering that isn't food focussed. Something for you to look forward to that will help take the stress of the daunting dinner table. With my inlaws, I would just have to find a new board game or card game. My side of the family would be harder. Like I said, just a thought.

(I'm like you... I love to cook for others, seeing them enjoying their meals, feeling comfortable, having fun, etc. I get the pressure one can feel to make everything perfect nice)

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TakingABreak    2,733

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1 minute ago, MrsGamgee said:

I had a thought, and I'm not sure how I would do it, but possibly have something planned for your gathering that isn't food focussed. Something for you to look forward to that will help take the stress of the daunting dinner table. With my inlaws, I would just have to find a new board game or card game. My side of the family would be harder. Like I said, just a thought.

(I'm like you... I love to cook for others, seeing them enjoying their meals, feeling comfortable, having fun, etc. I get the pressure one can feel to make everything perfect nice)

I like this idea a lot! I do have some games that would work for a large crowd. I'll SPRING it on them after dinner. thanks MrsGramgee!

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I think that hosting will make it easier to distract from the tiny amount of food you're able to eat. As far as activities, giant Jenga is a hit with my family.

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5 minutes ago, sillykitty said:

I think that hosting will make it easier to distract from the tiny amount of food you're able to eat. As far as activities, giant Jenga is a hit with my family.

I've sent that and I want to get it for our monthly game night with friends. It looks like a lot of fun.

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You will be moving around so much nobody will notice how little you're eating. You are like a hummingbird flitting around and no one counts how many times Ms H-bird makes it back to the nectar feeder they just enjoy seeing her. You'll rock this!

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Oh man we have karaoke compitions in my husband's family during Xmas time for prizes like there is individual duo and group it's fun

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Oh man we have karaoke compitions in my husband's family during Xmas time for prizes like there is individual duo and group it's fun

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No one would win prizes in my family, unless it was to stop LOL


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No one would win prizes in my family, unless it was to stop LOL



Surprisingly all in the family are really good at least the ones that participate. We also have a darts for money competition each year also we had like a fun dress up coustum contest to see who was most festive creative I mean on Halloween my mother-in-law did like a full on Arabian knights routine with dancing and dialogue and music it's wild we are like crazy competitive

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