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I was sleeved back in November and have lost 72lbs. I work with over 3,000 people so everyday all day I get comments about how great I look- which is awesome but not the reason I did it. I also get comments on how I look ill/sick. Has anyone else experienced this?

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I think it goes back to those that made the comment and what their outlook on life is. If they tend to have a negative outlook on life then they will tend to allow their thoughts to drift to the negative "oh they must be sick". if they take a positive outlook then you get those that think you are doing something good and you get all of those positive comments. Like you said you didn't undertake this to get the comments, im willing to bet you under took this for yourself.

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As we lose weight, our clothes sizes drop. This includes not only the size around our waist but more subtle changes as well such as shoe size. I started receiving comments as I lost weight that I looked like someone who was emancipated from a concentration camp. Anyways I looked at myself in the mirror and I could see where the comments came from. It was my sleeve length. As I shrunk, my sleeve length grew. I looked like character Dopey in Disney's Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. My sleeves hung down well past my fingertips.

Although I had changed most of my clothes, I hung onto my coats and jackets. I had a personal attachment to them because generally they were the most expensive items in my wardrobe. So I went and replaced these, the comments stopped and I then lost another 20 more pounds.

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Sure. "I had weight loss surgery. I'm not sick. In fact, I'm healthier than ever!"

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People associate rapid weighloss with scary illness. Because...it happens. Also, we can get a little Iron deficient and pale. We can suffer some Hair loss. Meh...is what it is. In time, we'll look healthier and stronger than ever.

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Confession: I asked my friend T a year ago if she had cancer. Duh she had had weight loss surgery, I was dumb, her hair was thin and suddenly so was her body. I know if it had been cancer she would have beat it but,I'm happy for her and myself it was WLS. I'm glad T is still my friend after all this.

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People will definitely notice, and many will comment and ask questions. Eventually, it dies down, and things get more back to normal. I still get comments from time to time, and every long once in a while, someone will tell me to stop losing weight. I just smile, and go on about my day.

On a good note, my health insurance company gave me $700 yesterday for losing the weight, and staying active last year. What a wonderful surprise! It was announced in an insurance renewal meeting, and a few comments were made, but positive ones, which is all good.

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1 hour ago, DropWt4Life said:

my health insurance company gave me $700 yesterday for losing the weight,

That is nice. I wish mine would! Maybe I should ask them...

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2 hours ago, DropWt4Life said:

health insurance company gave me $700 yesterday for losing the weight

@DropWt4Life

ohhhhh baby

where do I sign up for your insurance?? LOL

I'll give them a call

86 lbs+ gone

Is it ok that i comment on how good you look;)

kathy

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Thank you all for replying! Glad I’m not the only one.

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Thank you all for replying! Glad I’m not the only one.
Can I ask ur stats. On Tapatalk so can't see side bar. It's so dramatic people saying someone looks sick that's not appropriate. Unless you actually looks pale and they are being concerned they should mind there own. I've lost similar amounts

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HW- 288

SW- 265

CW- 215

5’8

It is strange to me because the people that say it mostly know I have had wls. I’m no where near my goal and still have lots of weight to lose. I am a little pale but not what I would consider sickly pale.

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