What? Sexting?? Is this really what there is to look forward to?

[336Mike 549]

I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.

Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.

Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?

I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.

Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 259 GW = 220 (6'5")

[MowryRocks 679]

I'm married, so you got me on that one. I can tell you that my younger sister and her friends are all about sexting and hooking up vs. relationships. They are also mostly about STD's so, what do they know...lol.

Hang in there. If I were single, I wouldn't be doing all that ish, I can't be the only one.

[shedo82773 1,236]

I'm also married and have been for many years (44years) I don't envy you at all. I swear I would rather live alone with my cat and dog if something happened to my best sweet honey. I wouldn't even know how to get started. LOL Hang in there, someone out there is looking for a nice guy. Which to me you sound like a super guy!! Not wanting boobs all over your hone is a huge PLUS!!!

[XYZXYZXYZ1955 675]

This is like just about anything else with relationships--some people are into it, some people are indifferent, some hate it. You will find plenty of women who want to get to know a guy before the topic (much less the activity) of sex comes up. There's little doubt that online is a great place to meet people, especially for older people who don't have the world of college or singles gatherings of all their friends. But think about what kind of dating sites you join: some are much more about hooking up randomly and others are about finding a relationship. It's still possible you'll run into random naked pictures on the more serious sites, but it's a smaller percentage of people. ignore the stuff that you find inappropriate and follow the basic pattern of emailing a couple of times, asking for a phone number, talking on the phone, then meeting for coffee or a drink. That will work most of the time . . . and don't get discouraged. There will be people who don't look like their pictures and people you have no chemistry with and so on--but there is hope out there. Stick to it and you'll meet someone.

[dreamingsmall 1,125]

I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.
Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.
Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?
I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.
Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?
VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 259 GW = 220 (6'5")

Obvcourse everyone isn't looking for a hookup. Maybe you should take your time before giving your number out so you can work out if the person is just after a hook up or not. At the end of the day you need to be abit more selective who you swap numbers with if that isn't what your looking for lol.

I understand though .. sometimes it can't be helped people pretend to be one thing and actually another. Keep at it.

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[336Mike 549]

I understand though .. sometimes it can't be helped people pretend to be one thing and actually another.

Yeah, this...




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[Numbergurl37 201]

It really seems to feel that way huh. I am annoyed with uncommitted immature men looking for hook ups. Sexting is pretty lame. Ya cant get a good perception of a person by looking at a screen. I am not sure where you live but I hope u find someone special.

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[Sosewsue61 3,185]

Be careful, sending/receiving naked pictures can land you in jail. I would dump this person immediately and delete them, and get your number changed - I'm serious. If you still want to pursue the online thing this way - get a burner phone.

Join something - hiking group, conservation group, etc. I don't know all of your interests so it's hard to recommend a lot. Dance lessons, IDK

Don't give up...

[dreamingsmall 1,125]

Be careful, sending/receiving naked pictures can land you in jail. I would dump this person immediately and delete them, and get your number changed - I'm serious. If you still want to pursue the online thing this way - get a burner phone.
Join something - hiking group, conservation group, etc. I don't know all of your interests so it's hard to recommend a lot. Dance lessons, IDK
Don't give up...

What ? Sending and receiving naked pictures from an adult.. something that alot of people do..can land him in jail.. because ?

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[dreamingsmall 1,125]

The whole population on tinder would be in jail by now lol

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[SIPS in Seattle 344]

I hate getting unsolicited pictures. It’s all guys wanna do, send you a pic. No thanks. This pic is totally how I feel.

[catamountchic 10]

I hate getting unsolicited pictures. It’s all guys wanna do, send you a pic. No thanks. This pic is totally how I feel.

Totally agree. It's not pretty. I don't want to see it.

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[catamountchic 10]

I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.
Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.
Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?
I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.
Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?
VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 259 GW = 220 (6'5")

Unfortunately that is what's common now. I hate it and because the random inappropriate d**k pic I didn't use any dating site... Glad you are feeling confident again. That's my goal as well.

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[Sosewsue61 3,185]

About the jail thing.....people misrepresent themselves online all the time. There are fake pictures of underage people that get circulated instead of the 'real person' and once your info is out there you can get pictures on your phone and computer that are compromising and not solicited because you already made contact and accepted. Plus viruses that put backdoors to your info that you will not even know are there.

Naked pictures are porn and online is not private. What you do offline is one thing, what you do online is a whole different ballgame people.

[FluffyChix 17,409]

11 hours ago, SIPS in Seattle said:

I hate getting unsolicited pictures. It’s all guys wanna do, send you a pic. No thanks. This pic is totally how I feel.

OMG! coffee all. over. my. screen! Classic! And perfect analogy! bahahahahahaha!