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I'm getting ready to schedule surgery and wondered if there's anyone out there who regrets having the procedure or knows someone who does. For any reason - not worth the cost, disappointed in results, harder to stick with than expected, medical complications, etc.

Any regrets that faded over time?

A few years ago I contemplated getting lasik for vision correction, but after reading too many messages from people who ended up worse off than before I was scared off - even though my brother had it done.

I'm not even a glass half empty sort, but one who see the spots on the glass that need to be cleaned. My secret to happpiness is low expectations. If I expect the worst I'm pleasantly surprised when things go okay!:rain:

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I'm 19 months out........not one little regret. And even tho I've still got a ways to go to goal, if I never lose another pound after today, I will still have so regrets.

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I don't regret it at all. Its been the easiest weight loss to date. That being said, I wish I had committed more to not drinking alcohol and exercising more early on. I'm down 65 lbs in 16 months. I 'm sure I would be at goal already if I had done those things. Good luck.

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I regret not doing it sooner.

I regret not capitalizing more on the first 6 months, when is when the weight was really flying off.

I tell people who ask - even when I'm at my worst, which has to be somewhere around hunched over the kitchen sink wishing that the PB would just come so the pain will stop, I would do it again in a heartbeat.

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I regret not capitalizing more on the first 6 months, when is when the weight was really flying off.

I second that emotion.

I also regret that I can't eat a Big Mac anymore...but then did I ever really need it anyway?

This has not always been an easy road but it has always been a fulfilling road. It's quite a journey!

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I have had tons of complications and a very difficult journey and I wouldn't trade the journey for the world. But I have a friend that depends purely on the band and doesn't work it in the least. She hasn't lost a thing except for the few pounds when she is around me for a weekend.

You'll get out what you put into the band, pure and simple.

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I was banded on Oct 11th. I don't regret doing it but you need to know you will get bummed out from time to time. Last night I was feeling blue because the weekend is here and I don't have "going out for dinner" to look forward to. I also felt like I could never eat pizza again. Not true! My husband went to Pizza Hut and brought me home a thin and crispy cheese pizza. We cut one piece up and found that 3/4 of a piece fits into a 1/4 cup. So that is what I eat and I was EXTREMELY full and satisfied! I have to remind myself that food is less important than my health!!!!

Good luck!

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Luvmydogs, I was worried when i read you got your band on the 11th and you are already eating pizza. Are you on a post -op diet? I was still on liquids seven days out. Be careful, you are still healing. Donna

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I have had tons of complications and a very difficult journey and I wouldn't trade the journey for the world. But I have a friend that depends purely on the band and doesn't work it in the least. She hasn't lost a thing except for the few pounds when she is around me for a weekend.

You'll get out what you put into the band, pure and simple.

I'm not banded yet, but I'm scheduled for Nov. 16th.

I'm curious how your friend doesn't lose weight with the band. Doesn't it constrict her flow so she can't possibly eat the way, or as much she used to? What are the secrets to optimizing your weight loss with the band?

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The only regret I have is forgetting to chew chew chew the first bite!!!! I do not regret having the band.......I canlive with a little slime here and there....live being the important word here!!!

No regrets!!!

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My Dr. said to work my way up to solid food at my own pace. She said they use to make it very regimented for the first couple months but have found it to be ok if the patient experiments one food at a time.

I do wonder why I am able to tolerate solids so soon??????? Maybe I won't once I get my first fill.

Thanks!

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I'm not banded yet, but I'm scheduled for Nov. 16th.

I'm curious how your friend doesn't lose weight with the band. Doesn't it constrict her flow so she can't possibly eat the way, or as much she used to? What are the secrets to optimizing your weight loss with the band?

She's a dear dear friend of mine, she used to be my employer so I've known her for a long time. She was banded six weeks after I was. She has the same doc as me. Same instructions, same everything. She eats her 800 calories in the right foods and then adds another couple of thousand calories in crap food.

With the band, if it goes through a straw it will likely go through you band. Ice cream, chocolate... all that stuff will go right through. I thought I was a carb addict, my addiction is nothing in comparison to hers.

She doesn't eat the right foods, she doesn't eat a solid Protein before eating the crap (meaning she makes sure the crap will go right through), she won't chew well so she gets stuck all the time and claims she can't tolerate a fill. I was really honest with her the other day and told her that I don't think she should get a fill either (even though she seriously needs one) because I don't think she can give up her "quantity" of food yet. She became upset and told me that wasn't true. I didn't push it, I just dropped it.

A couple of weeks later she said she thought it through and I might be right yet she hasn't done anything about getting a fill. She just plain isn't ready.

I lost weight by busting my butt. I kept calories at 600 daily and did hard cardio at least one hour a day. I still do the cardio, now it's just habit. :rolleyes: I'm maintaining but I think I want to lose another 10 or so, so I need to get my butt in gear again.

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early in the game but no regrets. hard work to relearn the chewing and slow eating process but I am getting there. loosing weight so far and very happy.

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