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Today had to be the most difficult day since surgery!! Attended my granddaughter's 2nd birthday party. Had a great time and am truly blessed that I was able to attend. Issue was the food:wacko: The usual party food of pizza, cake, ice cream, pop, etc. I had packed a little bag of my own food but felt a bit uncomfortable pulling out my container of cottage cheese and sugar free applesauce while everyone else was enjoying everything else. Does this ever get any easier??? Getting worried about how to handle the holidays. My support group has a meeting this month on dealing with the holidays and hope that helps.

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Today had to be the most difficult day since surgery!! Attended my granddaughter's 2nd birthday party. Had a great time and am truly blessed that I was able to attend. Issue was the food:wacko: The usual party food of pizza, cake, ice cream, pop, etc. I had packed a little bag of my own food but felt a bit uncomfortable pulling out my container of cottage cheese and sugar free applesauce while everyone else was enjoying everything else. Does this ever get any easier??? Getting worried about how to handle the holidays. My support group has a meeting this month on dealing with the holidays and hope that helps.


I'm going to be facing this a lot over the next couple of months too. Still trying to figure out how I will handle it.

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Your 2yr old grandbaby doesn't care if you eat cake - just needs you to be there AND be there for years to come.

I never pay attention to what anyone is eating at a bd party, too busy watching the kiddos open presents. You can always volunteer to take the photos. Or clean up, then go in the kitchen and take a few bites of your planned food, come back out with a drink in your hand and look busy. Fake it.

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Your 2yr old grandbaby doesn't care if you eat cake - just needs you to be there AND be there for years to come.
I never pay attention to what anyone is eating at a bd party, too busy watching the kiddos open presents. You can always volunteer to take the photos. Or clean up, then go in the kitchen and take a few bites of your planned food, come back out with a drink in your hand and look busy. Fake it.


True and great advice

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It does get easier. In assuming your still on purees when your on normal food depending on your plan you could eat pizza topping. I'm.allowed pizza but went to a Halloween party they offered me some I just didn't want it.. No one cares if you eat honestly.

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Social outings I now breeze through. No one cares as much as you do. I focus on socializing with the people I'm there with and keeping busy. Eat before you go and keep a bottled Water in your hand. before you know it, its over. If the social gathering involves going out to eat-- order your food and a to go box. Don't eat anything until your entrée arrives and when it does take a few bites of everything between conversation and then pack it up. No one will notice. Yes it does get better. Or at least your perspective will.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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