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Sleeve surgery in 40 days. DR originally recommended RNY because of all of my health problems, esp diabetes, but told me it was my choice if I wanted to do sleeve. I just was too scared to do RNY! Plus I'm most likely moving to an area in Georgia with less doctors familiar with that surgery since it's so new. I can't help but think that I'm going to relapse like SO many other people. I'm terrified of relapsing. food is my drug of choice so I think that's why I'm afraid I'll fall into bad habits after awhile. Ugh! Why was I so scared! It has great results! He told me I could always do the RNY part later but... I see what kind of an emotional impact rebounding has on people on this group.

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If you are unsure maybe you should talk to your doctor again. I know this is a tough decision and it is life changing. I am very happy I had the surgery. Getting off my diabetes medication and having it stay in remission has been the motivation to keep me going. I never want to go back!

Are you working with a therapist on your relationship with food? Some people find therapy really helps and is essential.

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Sleeve surgery in 40 days. DR originally recommended RNY because of all of my health problems, esp diabetes, but told me it was my choice if I wanted to do sleeve. I just was too scared to do RNY! Plus I'm most likely moving to an area in Georgia with less doctors familiar with that surgery since it's so new. I can't help but think that I'm going to relapse like SO many other people. I'm terrified of relapsing. food is my drug of choice so I think that's why I'm afraid I'll fall into bad habits after awhile. Ugh! Why was I so scared! It has great results! He told me I could always do the RNY part later but... I see what kind of an emotional impact rebounding has on people on this group.




I'm so with you on food as a drug of choice, or for me, a coping mechanism for everything from stress to boredom to a companion to watching TV. I'm one week post op and though I cannot eat bc of healing, my head hunger and desire to just munch is insane. I too need to do lots of work on that and am seeing a therapist and even considering hypnotherapy.

In terms of the bypass vs sleeve, my surgeon told me that the bypass is being fazed out bc of long term health issues from the malabsorption and not a good choice for those of us wanting to get pregnant. I will say also that we have several family friends who have had the bypass over the years and some of them have gained a significant amount of weight back too. I think with either choice we are going to have to do our part in fighting our food demons. It's seriously the hardest thing I have had to face. I'm there with you!

5'7 HW 256 SW 248 CW ? Wishful goal weight: 135 realistic goal weigh: 150


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If you are unsure maybe you should talk to your doctor again. I know this is a tough decision and it is life changing. I am very happy I had the surgery. Getting off my diabetes medication and having it stay in remission has been the motivation to keep me going. I never want to go back!
Are you working with a therapist on your relationship with food? Some people find therapy really helps and is essential.


Yep. Working with a therapist for some time now. Still nervous. Thanks for your comment!


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I'm so with you on food as a drug of choice, or for me, a coping mechanism for everything from stress to boredom to a companion to watching TV. I'm one week post op and though I cannot eat bc of healing, my head hunger and desire to just munch is insane. I too need to do lots of work on that and am seeing a therapist and even considering hypnotherapy.

In terms of the bypass vs sleeve, my surgeon told me that the bypass is being fazed out bc of long term health issues from the malabsorption and not a good choice for those of us wanting to get pregnant. I will say also that we have several family friends who have had the bypass over the years and some of them have gained a significant amount of weight back too. I think with either choice we are going to have to do our part in fighting our food demons. It's seriously the hardest thing I have had to face. I'm there with you!

5'7 HW 256 SW 248 CW ? Wishful goal weight: 135 realistic goal weigh: 150



Thanks for the support! Yeah, I do therapy quite a bit, but you are right. Maybe I'm just finally realizing that I can't keep going like this. Reading your post made my realize that maybe I was subconsciously regretting not doing RNY because I felt like I could cheat more. I have a friend who got it and she seems to be able to eat whatever she wants.... but it's only been a year out. I didn't realize people could also regain from that surgery too. And actually if you're a good addict I suppose it could actually make things worse if you think you can cheat your body and eat whatever. I feel better today. So
Glad I found this site. Off to the therapist!


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