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Hi All!

I've been thinking about this for 3 yrs. I finally cleared all the tests (for the last 2 yrs, i was unable to do it because i had bowel problems. We now know i have an autoimmune disorder). Now, i put my deposit down and have a date (one month out).

I came to this site to find people like me. People who can understand what i'm going through. I know there are a lot of you out there who have been through this!

I'm a 40 yr old mom of 3. I'm so scared that me not being able to control my weight has lead to the surgery and now im putting myself at risk. Negativity begets negativity - so i desperately want to get to that positive place where i don't go online to read about blood clots, horror stories! GOsh, not to mention friends & doctors who think i'm nutz.

Have any of you felt like this? Should i go to a therapist? Do yoga? Find local support groups?

Thank you for listening to me. Thank you to whoever responds. I appreciate you!

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Like you I am booked in for my sleeve surgery soon and have been feeling anxious, the way I look at at is that I am already at risk of so many problems because of my weight (and actually already have depression and sleep apnea)
I have times of feeling up then down about my surgery but ultimately know that this is MY time and I will be OK xx


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Hey,
I feel your pain! People think I'm nuts, too!!! I am waiting for insurance to approve and am really nervous that it won't approve and on the other hand I'm scared it will approve! I know that doesn't make sense but I think I'm just scared. It's going to be such a lifestyle change. I just hope I can do it.


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I agree, I too am terrified, terrified of the surgery and terrified of not doing the surgery. I am worried about the after, can I do this? Obviously I didn't do well with weight loss programs or I wouldn't be here so I really hope something clicks to make me realize I can do this. I think you have kids that you want to be around for, not to mention all those important events as the get older, although this is for you, you are doing it for a better life which will be better for them. And like all us moms out there our kids are a huge part of our life. My program actually has support group meetings for just these thoughts. You can do it!

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