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Today is 3 weeks post op for me, and I can't even tell you how sorry I am that I did this. I feel nauseaus almost the time, I HATE the thought of food, or looking at food or smelling food. I have little energy and I just feel sad. Is this noal? Will it pass? (It's not that I MISS the food, except maybe pizza) but I just want to feel GOOD, NORMAL. UGH.

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I am also 3 weeks post op, but I had little energy until I was getting enough Protein. I also had to make myself get up and move. Did they give you something for nausea, because that is what helped me? I had zofran for the first few weeks and also protonix to help with reflux and/or heartbearn. Those seemed to work for me. Do you tolerate the Protein Shakes okay?

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The first few weeks after surgery are tough, physically and mentally.

it is a really big surgery for your body to recover from. Those little holes on the outside don't reflect the huge changes inside. Your insides are sore and inflamed right now. Fatigue, low energy and mild depression are common and will go away as the weeks pass.

Looking back, I remember starting to feel a little better every day right around the 3 week mark, so I think you are past the worst of it.

I promise you that it gets better, so much better :)

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27 minutes ago, char3672 said:

Today is 3 weeks post op for me, and I can't even tell you how sorry I am that I did this. I feel nauseaus almost the time, I HATE the thought of food, or looking at food or smelling food. I have little energy and I just feel sad. Is this noal? Will it pass? (It's not that I MISS the food, except maybe pizza) but I just want to feel GOOD, NORMAL. UGH.

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What you're feeling is normal. I am over seven weeks out and i still get nauseous but only because I don't swallow my meds and fluids properly so it gets stuck and i have to work it down with big gulps or stroke my throat. More healing stomach will feel better. Sometimes eating and swallowing taste like bitter medicine but it subside please keep the faith. I know it's hard but i know you see results in your body.

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I am also 3 weeks post op, but I had little energy until I was getting enough Protein. I also had to make myself get up and move. Did they give you something for nausea, because that is what helped me? I had zofran for the first few weeks and also protonix to help with reflux and/or heartbearn. Those seemed to work for me. Do you tolerate the Protein Shakes okay?

I have zofran, but I try not to take it and omeprezerole (spelling) I CAN'T drink shakes AT ALL! The dr tolf me to stop them, but when I tried, I can't drink them anyway. EVERYTHING makes me nauseaus. I'm wondering if I need stronger reflux meds. I'm so depressed, I knew it would be a life change, but I didn't count on feeling like THIS.

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The first few weeks after surgery are tough, physically and mentally.
it is a really big surgery for your body to recover from. Those little holes on the outside don't reflect the huge changes inside. Your insides are sore and inflamed right now. Fatigue, low energy and mild depression are common and will go away as the weeks pass.
Looking back, I remember starting to feel a little better every day right around the 3 week mark, so I think you are past the worst of it.
I promise you that it gets better, so much better [emoji4]


I so hope you are right!!!! As of right now, I feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life! I hope it gets better soon. I was so excited for this surgery. I'm happy you are doing well.

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What you're feeling is normal. I am over seven weeks out and i still get nauseous but only because I don't swallow my meds and fluids properly so it gets stuck and i have to work it down with big gulps or stroke my throat. More healing stomach will feel better. Sometimes eating and swallowing taste like bitter medicine but it subside please keep the faith. I know it's hard but i know you see results in your body.

I feel better physically as far as no more back pain or foot pain, but I feel so sick all the time. I have 1 good day and 3 bad days. I hope it passes. It makes me feel better to hear that its normal. I KNOW i'm NOT getting in enough Protein or fluids. And I NEED to start moving more. Thank you!

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1 hour ago, char3672 said:

Today is 3 weeks post op for me, and I can't even tell you how sorry I am that I did this. I feel nauseaus almost the time, I HATE the thought of food, or looking at food or smelling food. I have little energy and I just feel sad. Is this noal? Will it pass? (It's not that I MISS the food, except maybe pizza) but I just want to feel GOOD, NORMAL. UGH.

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Have you talked to your Dr? Feeling nauseous all the time is not normal. Anyone would feel miserable in those circumstances.

Also if you are not eating or drinking enough, you are always going to feel terrible. You can't starve and think you are going to feel good.

What does your Dr say about this?

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Is there a reason you're avoiding taking the Zofran? It seem like if you have nausea and a nausea med on hand, maybe try taking it. Unless there is some reaction you are having?

I can tell you as someone currently at 6weeks out I had to take Zofran as needed for the first month. I still have occasional bouts of nausea, but it goes away after I eat. It just stinks because the nausea makes me not want to eat, so I have to fight through it.

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Is there a reason you're avoiding taking the Zofran? It seem like if you have nausea and a nausea med on hand, maybe try taking it. Unless there is some reaction you are having?
I can tell you as someone currently at 6weeks out I had to take Zofran as needed for the first month. I still have occasional bouts of nausea, but it goes away after I eat. It just stinks because the nausea makes me not want to eat, so I have to fight through it.

I guess I just try to avoid medicine, there really is no reason why I shouldn't take the zofran. I am so "grossed out" by food right now, that just thinking about it makes me so sick!!!

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This is normal. You have buyers remorse. You regret the decision you made because you do not feel the instant gratification you thought you would feel. The first few weeks are the hardest. Nothing comes easy and this is the hardest part of the journey you will have.

I made a YouTube video in which I talked about the depression that I was feeling.

Honestly, it gets better. A lot better. It just takes time. Your feeling towards food is due to your fear that it will make you sick or that you think eating will make you gain weight. I felt both those emotions. Just know you need to eat, it is essential. Do not fear food. You will only be trading in one extreme for another. The goal is to gain a healthy relationship with food.

I used to live to eat. Now I eat to live. I look at food as what nutrition can I get from it. I make all kinds of recipes of my favorite foods, just low carb and calorie options.

It does get better. It just takes time.

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Have you talked to your Dr? Feeling nauseous all the time is not normal. Anyone would feel miserable in those circumstances.
Also if you are not eating or drinking enough, you are always going to feel terrible. You can't starve and think you are going to feel good.
What does your Dr say about this?

I called yesterday. They suggested I take my Zofran everyday. I took it 3xs yesterday, but I haven't felt sick today. I'm hoping/PRAYING that maybe yesterday was the peak of my healing and now I'll start feeling better each day!!!

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This is normal. You have buyers remorse. You regret the decision you made because you do not feel the instant gratification you thought you would feel. The first few weeks are the hardest. Nothing comes easy and this is the hardest part of the journey you will have.
I made a YouTube video in which I talked about the depression that I was feeling.
[/url] Honestly, it gets better. A lot better. It just takes time. Your feeling towards food is due to your fear that it will make you sick or that you think eating will make you gain weight. I felt both those emotions. Just know you need to eat, it is essential. Do not fear food. You will only be trading in one extreme for another. The goal is to gain a healthy relationship with food.
I used to live to eat. Now I eat to live. I look at food as what nutrition can I get from it. I make all kinds of recipes of my favorite foods, just low carb and calorie options.
It does get better. It just takes time.


How far out were you when you felt "normal"? I keep hearing after week 3 it gets MUCH better.

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How far out were you when you felt "normal"? I keep hearing after week 3 it gets MUCH better.

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When you're not nauseous it gets better. I can't imagine being nauseous for three weeks! You also aren't getting in enough Protein and Water I'm guessing. All of this will make you feel miserable and definitely not normal. It's not that three weeks is a magical time of normal, it's just many people can get all their requirements in by then so they feel better. Keep taking your meds and try to get in your required Fluid and protein. I'd be surprised if you didn't feel better soon! Fingers crossed for you!

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