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I don't even know where to start. My body hurts so bad right now. I was grabbed by the back of my neck and thrown on bed & my arm is badly bruised. I'm filing for divorce after nearly 10 years together since age 17. He looked at me and told me "you don't look all that good anymore". I'm just done. Part of my mental issues have been this dying relationship, I needed to let I go.

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Sorry, you going through it but it's time to leave him. And maybe that's the issue you look so good he. Know someone else will appreciate what he don't


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@Deactivatedfatgal please get someone to stay with you and change the locks, and get a restraining order filed. I would swear out a warrant on him. My heart goes out to you.

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I don't even know where to start. My body hurts so bad right now. I was grabbed by the back of my neck and thrown on bed & my arm is badly bruised. I'm filing for divorce after nearly 10 years together since age 17. He looked at me and told me "you don't look all that good anymore". I'm just done. Part of my mental issues have been this dying relationship, I needed to let I go.

You need to protect yourself. Call the police and report this physical abuse. If he doesn't agree to leave the marital home, you need to...put distance between you and him. The victim of domestic violence averages three attempts at leaving. Please seek counseling. Protect yourself.


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Thank you guys, he did leave home and I'm moving soon into a new apartment, I kind of have been building myself up to do this. My back is hurting really bad but I have real big bruise on left arm, I took photos because he is threatening to take my child because I'm not "healthy". He's the reason for mental anguish! Years of enabling and never encouraging me to get healthy. We are done. I refuse to be another number.

I will take take some time away from social sites, but thank you all for being kind throughout these past three months. We are strangers but I feel like I know you all,

with love,

V

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Thank you guys, he did leave home and I'm moving soon into a new apartment, I kind of have been building myself up to do this. My back is hurting really bad but I have real big bruise on left arm, I took photos because he is threatening to take my child because I'm not "healthy". He's the reason for mental anguish! Years of enabling and never encouraging me to get healthy. We are done. I refuse to be another number.
I will take take some time away from social sites, but thank you all for being kind throughout these past three months. We are strangers but I feel like I know you all,
with love,
V



Go to the courthouse and get a restraining order against him that works against him for taking ur child. I suffered from domestic abuse with 3 different men over a period of 15 years finally I got to be independent and away from it for about 5 years now. If u ever need someone to talk to just message me


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Go to the doc as well and get your injury documented. Be safe hon. We're here for you!

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I would very much like to meet your soon to be ex and 'vigorously discuss' how I feel about a 'man' putting his hands on a woman like that.

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Oh my goodness... I am so sorry you're going through this! You seem to be taking healthy steps: documenting, separating yourself from the abuser. Make sure you are never, ever alone with this person again, and document everything - especially if your child's custody is being threatened. Please be good to yourself right now. Big hugs!

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Thinking of you, hope you are safe.

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It's his own fear that is making him lash out at you. He is mentally weak and trying to show you how strong he is through physical force. It's great that you recognized you need out of this.. You will rise a healthier, Happier, In control mom. Years of emotional abuse is hard to get over.. Look for support groups it will help you tremendously .. Been there.. I'm in control of my life.. Best wishes


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I don't even know where to start. My body hurts so bad right now. I was grabbed by the back of my neck and thrown on bed & my arm is badly bruised. I'm filing for divorce after nearly 10 years together since age 17. He looked at me and told me "you don't look all that good anymore". I'm just done. Part of my mental issues have been this dying relationship, I needed to let I go.

I am 13 days post-op thought my husband would be supportive. He has never been. I woke up 6hrs post my surgery and my husband was out drinking. On day number 3 in the hospital he was totally drunk. I begged him not to come to the hospital for fear I would be found out. You may ask why...my husband and I work for the same hospital. I could relate to the mental and physical abuse you are going through and to believe it would of stopped post surgery is a mistake. Now we have to focus on ourselves. Get healthy and be strong. You know what to do.

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