I went on a date recently with someone and he decided on a whim that he wanted to take me out for sushi. I tried to suggest something else, but he was hungry. I ordered a few pieces of sashimi and ate the fish without the rice and told him I'm low-carbing it. But I spent so much time chewing it into a paste that I hardly talked, and since I only ate 3 pieces, he noticed and asked me what was up. I just told him I wasn't hungry to begin with, and it seemed fine from there. But I don't want to keep having these awkward interactions.

I don't tell people about surgery. If I get into a more serious relationship, I'll reveal it, but I am still uncomfortable with people knowing yet.

So give me some fun date ideas that don't involve going out to eat! I have had a blast mini-golfing on a date, and going to the batting cages. But I'm here to gather ideas so I can have good suggestions on hand the next time someone suggests we go out to dinner. Give me your favorites.

13 minutes ago, PatientEleventyBillion said:

You're not missing out on anything dude, go out and make friends.

If it were that easy, I would.

23 minutes ago, bellabloom said:

Then again- women have to deal with things like date rape, getting roofeed, serial murderers ,cat calls, bikini waxes, underwire bras, menstrual flow, control top panties, having assholes try and grope them on a date, jerks that "forget"Their wallet, being hit on in disgusting ways, cheating husbands, etc etc etc.

So. I'd say it's about even. It's a war out there baby cakes.

So what is my advantage and how do I use it? You've shown here that women are more likely to be victims of sexual assault. I guess if you view me as a rapist because I'm a man, that isn't an advantage to getting a date.

1 hour ago, sgc said:

What is my advantage?

High quality men are rare in most areas of the country due to a bad economy and increased drug use. So an employed educated man is highly sought after. They have the advantage in dating.

Plus just sheer numbers, women out number men, men have their pick.

Also if you are really 6 feet tall, you have it made, women will put up with a lot from a tall man.

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3 minutes ago, OutsideMatchInside said:

High quality men are rare in most areas of the country due to a bad economy and increased drug use. So an employed educated man is highly sought after. They have the advantage in dating.

Plus just sheer numbers, women out number men, men have their pick.

Also if you are really 6 feet tall, you have it made, women will put up with a lot from a tall man.

I would say high quality women are rare too. The ratio of men to women in my area is pretty even. I don't see it as an overwhelming advantage. I would imagine women out number men due to women living longer than men so it's likely more 70 and 80 year old women.

I am really 6 foot. My surgeon measured my height and I was 6'1 so I did lie about my height and made myself shorter.

I cannot get a date to save my life and. Am on 3 dating sites. What do you women want for crying out loud. Just meet me and you will love me. That's all. Give me a chance. I am not ugly at all.

I cannot get a date to save my life and. Am on 3 dating sites. What do you women want for crying out loud. Just meet me and you will love me. That's all. Give me a chance. I am not ugly at all.

I hadn't been on a date at all in about two years and I finally decided to try dating again, I am very far from ugly, inside and outside, the guy never called me back and I've never had that happen to me EVER! Just know that when you meet the right person it will be worth it. I'd give you a chance based on this letter alone. You sound very sincere and maybe these women don't deserve you and your niceness. You sound awesome to me. Some women don't appreciate nice, good honest men.

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1 hour ago, jlindenman said:

I cannot get a date to save my life and. Am on 3 dating sites. What do you women want for crying out loud. Just meet me and you will love me. That's all. Give me a chance. I am not ugly at all.

I am against dating websites, mainly ones like plenty of fish. People legit just want to f•••. I had a coworker who had been through 40 men on that website & not ONE panned out.

I still think it's best to meet someone through mutual friends or at a coffee shop or something. When I was on dating app (albeit 1 month) most guys were unemployed and shirtless, major turnoff. Good luck to you, you will find someone when it's meant to be

10 minutes ago, Deactivatedfatgal said:

I am against dating websites, mainly ones like plenty of fish. People legit just want to f•••. I had a coworker who had been through 40 men on that website & not ONE panned out.

I still think it's best to meet someone through mutual friends or at a coffee shop or something. When I was on dating app (albeit 1 month) most guys were unemployed and shirtless, major turnoff. Good luck to you, you will find someone when it's meant to be

I found the free dating sites to be low quality. On POF I got solicited by a dominatrix. I almost contacted her back just so I could at least be with a woman.

I'm employed and fully clothed and yet still can't get any woman to respond. I keep hearing how low quality the guys are on these sites and yet 150 women chose to ignore me.

I found the free dating sites to be low quality. On POF I got solicited by a dominatrix. I almost contacted her back just so I could at least be with a woman.
I'm employed and fully clothed and yet still can't get any woman to respond. I keep hearing how low quality the guys are on these sites and yet 150 women chose to ignore me.

Not saying this is the case, but if your messages sound generic and don't contain anything to let the woman know that you read her profile, it's very likely that the message will be ignored. I don't know if this applies...just a thought.

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3 minutes ago, JenSev said:

Not saying this is the case, but if your messages sound generic and don't contain anything to let the woman know that you read her profile, it's very likely that the message will be ignored. I don't know if this applies...just a thought.

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I made sure to mention something in their profile. I was spending 30-45 minutes trying to craft a nice email message. I always asked something specific they mentioned in their profile and then mentioned how we relate through whatever it is. I also didn't want to come out and just compliment them on their looks right away either. After about 100 of these with no response, I felt it wasn't worth the time and effort so they got more generic and I read less of their profile.

Well what a flippin let down! I am sorry to hear that it's been a crummy experience. Have you tried meetup.com? They have a lot of in person opportunities.

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3 minutes ago, JenSev said:

Well what a flippin let down! I am sorry to hear that it's been a crummy experience. Have you tried meetup.com? They have a lot of in person opportunities.

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That's my problem. I have social anxiety disorder. I was just recently prescribed Paxil. Going to places and meeting strange people in person just doesn't work for me. I've been discovering it's been a combination of how I was raised and being overweight my entire adult life. I have no problem communicating online. I need to build up a rapport online and then meet one on one. I try approaching strangers in a public setting and I get heart palpitations and sometimes struggle to speak.

I know where I live women in my age group with no kids are rare, but seriously I can't be all that special.

I've dated 2 College Professors, several business men (one owns a chain of sports bars locally), and a couple attorneys. All varying levels of fun. I met them all on Tinder. All of their credentials verified, none were frauds or creeps. Tinder has more confident people since it is all picture based and it has more "real" people since you have to link it to facebook. I'm sure there are lots of people looking for hookups but I haven't came across them, they are pretty easy to weed out just swiping left or right on first impression. You can tell a dude that is just looking for some.

POF is full of losers. I've never done Match, I'm not looking to get married and guys on Match or more serious. e harmony just seems lame. Tinder has the most men, because you don't really have to make a profile, so it makes sense to go there. Thanks to OKPirate for that tip.

Compliments don't get my attention that much, because men always compliment. I like the guys that read my profile, understand what kind of music I like. And ask me out. I'm not will to text or have long drawn out conversations on an app. If they don't have time to go out soon, then it is just a waste of time. That is another quick and easy way to weed out who is serious. If they aren't asking about your availability they are probably married and bored or involved and just looking for someone to talk to while they are at work. A guy with a successful career doesn't have time to chat you up on an app for hours.

I want to use the internet as a fast track to meeting people, not for actual online dating. I'm not trying to end up on Catfish.

3 minutes ago, sgc said:

That's my problem. I have social anxiety disorder. I was just recently prescribed Paxil. Going to places and meeting strange people in person just doesn't work for me. I've been discovering it's been a combination of how I was raised and being overweight my entire adult life. I have no problem communicating online. I need to build up a rapport online and then meet one on one. I try approaching strangers in a public setting and I get heart palpitations and sometimes struggle to speak.

Do you play Warcraft or any online games? You could make friends like that and meet someone

12 minutes ago, OutsideMatchInside said:

Do you play Warcraft or any online games? You could make friends like that and meet someone

I play mostly original Nintendo. Still living out my childhood.