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I am planning on not telling people that I work with that I am having surgery. There are just too many people in my office who are judgemental and likes to give their opinions whether you want them or not. Plus, i don't think i wamt to start out with all eyes on me. The only ones who know is my boss's and supervisor. I was wondering if anyone else had the same or similar situation and how you explained your absence and everything to those who asked?

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I told everybody hiatal hernia. It worked perfectly, it explains the absence and the strange eating.

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Have you ever had any abdominal surgery before? I'm in the medical field and can help you with a back story so no one is the wiser! LOL!


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Have you ever had any abdominal surgery before? I'm in the medical field and can help you with a back story so no one is the wiser! LOL!




I have had AC section and my gallbladder removed with laparoscopic surgery.

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I am planning on not telling people that I work with that I am having surgery. There are just too many people in my office who are judgemental and likes to give their opinions whether you want them or not. Plus, i don't think i wamt to start out with all eyes on me. The only ones who know is my boss's and supervisor. I was wondering if anyone else had the same or similar situation and how you explained your absence and everything to those who asked?
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Tell the folks you are comfortable with knowing and that will support. I have worked with some folks for over 20 years so they are close friends. I told a few.

Your life style will change so eventually people will notice. At some point they will notice that and your weight loss. Feel comfortable about what you are doing and why and move forward.


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Two women at my job know. Nobody has suspected a thing and it's a month out for me on Monday!

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I'm the same. I didn't tell anyone at work. Only my family and close friends know. I did not want the scrutiny while going through this.

Sleeved 3/6/17
Weight at consult 311
Weight before surgery 274
Weight currently 260

**Goal Weight= 160**

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I told my coworkers that I was getting a cyst removed.

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That's a good one. Where was your "cyst" located? I'm going to be out for surgery and I work in a small office in a southern town where everybody needs to know everybody's business. I have a three people who know and support me. But everyone is going to be asking why I was off for a week. You gotta love small southern towns!

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I have told some close coworkers, but after the surgery all you are doing is eating smarter and in more sensible portions. I told the rest I had a gallbladder surgery and that explained the special diet before. After that I told them it was a great jumpstart to losing weight and so I was committing to keep losing by continuing better eating habits and Portion Control. Most are supportive and don't need to know the full story. Mostly I just smile and say thanks at the compliments of weight loss and when they ask what I am doing I say eating better and smarter. It's true, every word.


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That's a good one. Where was your "cyst" located? I'm going to be out for surgery and I work in a small office in a southern town where everybody needs to know everybody's business. I have a three people who know and support me. But everyone is going to be asking why I was off for a week. You gotta love small southern towns!

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My stomach. I was diagnosed with fatty liver disease last year. Causes me to have pains in my midsection and I'm always nauseous. I told my coworkers those symptoms were because of a cyst in my midsection that needed to be surgically removed.

A lot of people say "it's none of their business" but like when people ask I don't feel comfortable being like "I'm not telling you" I would rather lie.

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That's a good one. Where was your "cyst" located? I'm going to be out for surgery and I work in a small office in a southern town where everybody needs to know everybody's business. I have a three people who know and support me. But everyone is going to be asking why I was off for a week. You gotta love small southern towns!

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My stomach. I was diagnosed with fatty liver disease last year. Causes me to have pains in my midsection and I'm always nauseous. I told my coworkers those symptoms were because of a cyst in my midsection that needed to be surgically removed.

A lot of people say "it's none of their business" but like when people ask I don't feel comfortable being like "I'm not telling you" I would rather lie.

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That's a good one. Where was your "cyst" located? I'm going to be out for surgery and I work in a small office in a southern town where everybody needs to know everybody's business. I have a three people who know and support me. But everyone is going to be asking why I was off for a week. You gotta love small southern towns!

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My stomach. I was diagnosed with fatty liver disease last year. Causes me to have pains in my midsection and I'm always nauseous. I told my coworkers those symptoms were because of a cyst in my midsection that needed to be surgically removed.

A lot of people say "it's none of their business" but like when people ask I don't feel comfortable being like "I'm not telling you" I would rather lie.

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