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Hi there everyone!

This is my first post here. I've lurked for a while hoping to find someone that's having the same issue as I am, but I hadn't quite seen anyone with my problem (or I'm just blind which is also possible), so I decided to post despite being really shy about forum posting in general. Please go easy on me. :>

I had RNY on December 19th. I feel like all of the weight I lost was within the first two weeks, then it just completely stopped. My starting weight was 317, and more than 2 months later I'm only at 291. When I read about most people starting at a lower weight than me yet still dropping way more than I have by now, it's discouraging as hell and I feel like I'm doing something wrong. It's embarrassing when my whole family knows I've done this and every time they see me, they're expecting me to have lost more weight, but nothing changes. What's going on? Why am I not having any success like everyone else on here? I thought it might be due to having PCOS, which is why I couldn't lose weight to begin with, but I've also seen many of you able to still drop the weight despite having PCOS. It could also be due to not exercising every day, but I find that I'm so drained of energy on the daily that I can't even bring myself to do it most of the time.

I just kind of feel like I went through this whole chaotic process only to lose 26 pounds and that's making me understandably upset. I just keep being told that "the weight will come off, everyone loses differently," but when people go into this surgery starting at around 250 pounds and they've already dropped 40+ by now, I have to wonder where I'm going wrong. I'd appreciate any sort of help at this point. Thank you!

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How many grams of carbs are you eating a day? How many calories? How much sugar? How much Protein? How mucha Water? I had RNY 01/20 so im
About 40 days in. And i feel good. But i
Did get super diacouraged since at 3 weeks i
Lost 28 pounds and o didn't lose anything week 4. I gained 3 lps week 5. And i started looking at mu carbs and eating 5 times a day and i started losing again om week 6. So check on that and let me
Know if you want help. Good luck.


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It takes most people about one year to lose the first 100 pounds and then about five pounds a month for another six months. Some people are much quicker and some are much slower. The important thing is to be sure you are weighing, measuring and tracking everything that you eat and drink.

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Are you making your Water and Protein goals? Both are very important. If you aren't meeting them then your body will believe you are starving and will not allow you to lose weight. Are you following your vitamin/supplement regimen?

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Hi there everyone!
This is my first post here. I've lurked for a while hoping to find someone that's having the same issue as I am, but I hadn't quite seen anyone with my problem (or I'm just blind which is also possible), so I decided to post despite being really shy about forum posting in general. Please go easy on me. :>
I had RNY on December 19th. I feel like all of the weight I lost was within the first two weeks, then it just completely stopped. My starting weight was 317, and more than 2 months later I'm only at 291. When I read about most people starting at a lower weight than me yet still dropping way more than I have by now, it's discouraging as hell and I feel like I'm doing something wrong. It's embarrassing when my whole family knows I've done this and every time they see me, they're expecting me to have lost more weight, but nothing changes. What's going on? Why am I not having any success like everyone else on here? I thought it might be due to having PCOS, which is why I couldn't lose weight to begin with, but I've also seen many of you able to still drop the weight despite having PCOS. It could also be due to not exercising every day, but I find that I'm so drained of energy on the daily that I can't even bring myself to do it most of the time.
I just kind of feel like I went through this whole chaotic process only to lose 26 pounds and that's making me understandably upset. I just keep being told that "the weight will come off, everyone loses differently," but when people go into this surgery starting at around 250 pounds and they've already dropped 40+ by now, I have to wonder where I'm going wrong. I'd appreciate any sort of help at this point. Thank you!


I've been slower than most to. I'm 6 months out. People tell me that it seems I stay the same then overnight it looks like I've dropped 20. Lol take your body measurements. You could be losing inches just keeping plugging away. It will happen


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I've been slower than most to. I'm 6 months out. People tell me that it seems I stay the same then overnight it looks like I've dropped 20. Lol take your body measurements. You could be losing inches just keeping plugging away. It will happen



I haven't have my surgery yet, it will be in May but I have been reading a lot and learning a lot from others posts. One of the things that got my eye was that a lot of people keeps saying to keep the carbs count under 50 and the Protein intake above 100 and that will help with loosing weight. I am very interested in this because I was diagnosed with diabetes and I should be eating a low carb diet but please give me some advise in your experiences


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Nutritionist advised 60 grams of Protein a day which was two Premier Protein shakes. Didn't count carbs but kept sugar low. The first few months you're eating so little you have to make sure you're eating enough but u won't be eating bread Pasta or rice they don't fell good in stomach. I eat carbs but avoid gluten on most days except for special occasions...so no bread pasta crackers Cookies

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At my 3 month appointment, they told me the tires feeling is still normal. Because success with this process comes from a balance of so many things (water, Protein, calories, Vitamins, exercise - which BTW you shouldn't worry about too much at only 2 months in, just doing some walking and staying active is key, in fact I think you'd still be on restrictions) I would recommend talking to your dietitian to ensure you have the whole picture covered. Yes, you will lose slower because of PCOS. And yes, some ppl just lose slower. As long as it's consistently coming off, just try and be happy with that. I know it's hard when other ppl are killing it, but make sure you're not eating to few calories, that will slow things down.


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