Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Nostalgia and emotional burdens



Recommended Posts

Hello,

First of all, I'm new to these forums and I'm glad to have your support. I'm pre-op awaiting insurance approval to be scheduled.

I have a lot of emotional baggage over my hobby. I've been brewing and drinking (new) beers for the past 4 years. I like to go to festivals and new breweries and try their beers. In the pursuit of this, I've acquired or have been gifted brewing equipment, beer signs, steins, and glassware. Some of which I've only received at Christmas this year and haven't had time to use. I'm full of guilt that my family has bought me equipment and limited edition steins that I won't be using for a long time if ever. Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't like the feeling that people wasted money on gifts And I also want to keep my steins and use them for other liquids.

I may return to the hobby and brew for the enjoyment of others, I have a friend who owns a microbrewery and does Keto so he rarely partakes in his wares outside of quality samples.

Sorry for the rambling posts, I'm not good at explaining how I feel :S

Jason

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I completely understand what you are trying to say. I was a cider and beer drinker and loved going to festivals and tastings. I can only make it through 1/4th of a glass of cider now, and though I rarely drink it now, I do enjoy trying a sample of a new cider.

You definitely can still use your steins for other liquids or maybe even have a beautiful display of steins. My husband has a sizeable collection of steins from living in Germany, but doesn't drink beer regularly as his is a diabetic. He still uses them for other things and we have a really cool display in the wet bar he built as well.

Let that guilt go!

Hopefully you will be able to return to brewing some day as it sounds like you are very passionate about it.

Best of luck to you on your approval and continued weight loss journey.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Cool hobby!

Maybe just pack everything away for now, so you can focus on the surgery and healing process. Then, down the road you can reassess whether brewing is still something you want to do? Keep the steins out though! From what I hear both pre-op and post-op we'll be drinking lots and lots of fluids for a good while!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Either way, I'll be taking a break from the hobby for a year. It's the long term that I'm stressing over :P

I have an easy one year break as I'll be moving to Japan in April 2018. I'm a type of person who overthinks things and stresses about what others think.

Steins can hold tea and water! So I'll use that at least.

One of the best suggestions my doctor gave me was to make beer soap. That way I have a non-edible (hopefully) hobby.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have been making my own soap for years now. It started as a hobby and turned into a part time home business. Beer soaps are pretty amazing! They lather very well. When I make a soap out of beer or wine I heat the alcoholic beverage and let it simmer down to a sort of Syrup to evaporate the alcohol out of it, otherwise the soap might smell like "the morning after"!

I understand feeling bad that you won't be using the gifts others gave you, but my guess is they also want what's best for you and will understand. The steins sound like great display pieces!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It's sad when we have to give things we love due to this journey.

I hope the benefits out weigh the risks and sacrifices for you.

I would also warn about addiction transfer. Once food leaves our lives we find other things to plug the hole, and alcohol is one.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×