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triplethreat    257

triplethreat
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I've been very successful with losing but still sometimes have a hard time seeing who I am now. This happens when I unexpectedly see myself in a reflection and don't recognize myself, when I am folding clothing and thinking that it won't fit when I *know* it's my size. The psychology of weight loss is pretty strange. Do we all go through this at some point?

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Alyssa_T    30

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It seems you have lost a lot in such a short time. May I ask when you were sleeved? I go through something similar but the difference is that I do recognize myself but in my mind, I'm still fat. I'm 8 weeks sleeved n I only lost 29 pounds (it's something but not an extreme lost weight -yet) but I feel I'm still veeery fat, like before. :(

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JamieLogical    8,727

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I think we do all go through it. Especially those of us who were big for a long time. I know I still do a double-take when I am folding my jeans and I've been at goal for 16 months! Yesterday I was taking some profile pics for an online dating site (that's a whole other story!) and it was crazy looking at pictures of myself. I don't do that often at all.

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Clarevoyant    347

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Yes! My friend who I have inspired to work out and eat healthy asked me if I wanted her jeans that don't fit anymore. Basically her fat jeans. They were a size 8 and I said sure I'll take them completely expecting to not be able to button them but keep them for the future and low and behold they fit just fine. I have not been a size 8 since high school. Now I can only hope that one day they will be my fat jeans :)

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triplethreat    257

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In my mind I'm heavier than in reality. It's so strange-but I am sure very common! @@JamieLogical I hope the dating site goes well!! I tell my single friends they should get together and write a film about online dating/dating apps-- the stories are sometimes awful and sometimes awfully great! @@Alyssa_T, I hit gw right at six months which seems about right given that my BMI wasn't as high as some. I was sleeved in July... So it's been slow and steady for me. @Clarevoyant-- I also inherited fat jeans (about three months after surgery-- I was a size 12) and was so happy that they fit!! I'm in a single digit size now and sometimes walk in a store and look for plus sizes and have to do a quick reality check!

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LittleLizzieLilliput    919

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I have not had that happen yet. Though I'm waiting excitedly for it to happen! lol! I think once I get to be lower than a size 12 I won't know what to do with myself.

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Dknal2    1,066

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I can totally relate to this post. I am 8 weeks out and I have lost 32 lbs. but itotal since I started my journey I have lost 55 lbs. so it looks like I have lost a whole lot of weight. I started out in a tight size 16 now my size 12 are falling off of me so I assume I am a size 10. I refuse to buy any more clothing because my body has changed so much. I go in stores and window shop and find myself looking at a size 16 even though that would swallow me. But in my mind , looking at a size 10 is not the correct size to look for. I used to get discouraged when I would come on here and see that people have lost 90 lbs in 2 months ( I'm being sarcastic) but now I don't sweat it. I know that my BMI was lower coming in so my weight is gonna come off a little slower. But I'm good with only 37 lbs to go until I reach goal. So staying focused and pushing forward .

It seems you have lost a lot in such a short time. May I ask when you were sleeved? I go through something similar but the difference is that I do recognize myself but in my mind, I'm still fat. I'm 8 weeks sleeved n I only lost 29 pounds (it's something but not an extreme lost weight -yet) but I feel I'm still veeery fat, like before. :(

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lacylou    21

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I was trying to get some exercise just one week post-op yesterday and decided to walk around a shopping outlet. I had fun going into the stores to see all of the Spring fashions and I would occasionally see something I really liked and I would pick up a size 10 (my first goal size). I'd look at it on the hanger and say it looks so small. Very hard to wrap my head around shopping in "small" again.

I have been overweight for about 17 years. In that time, I not only had to buy bigger clothes but as we all know, we are limited in fashion choices. I do not know how to shop for my age, size, and I have no clue what is in style. I am looking forward to being able to buy some new clothes but it is going to be daunting. I don't want to look like I am dressing too young. I don't want to look dated. I don't want to have a distorted body image and buy clothes that are too tight or too baggy (I am currently the Queen of baggy).

Guess we all can't have stylists!!!

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triplethreat    257

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I have shopping anxiety too! As I've been rebuilding my wardrobe I aim for fitted items and things that don't hide me. After so many years of disguising myself it's hard to get the hang of what to wear!

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jamilw    13

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I agree!!! I have lost 70 pounds so far. Everyone says I look great and can tell that I've lost weight, but I do not personally feel it. I can tell some by the way my clothes fit and when I catch my self in the mirror I am doing a double take. I still feel fat though. I'm sure it will take a while to get used to the new me.

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      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
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    • Doughgurl

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      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
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      1. Selina333

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    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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