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I've been very successful with losing but still sometimes have a hard time seeing who I am now. This happens when I unexpectedly see myself in a reflection and don't recognize myself, when I am folding clothing and thinking that it won't fit when I *know* it's my size. The psychology of weight loss is pretty strange. Do we all go through this at some point?

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It seems you have lost a lot in such a short time. May I ask when you were sleeved? I go through something similar but the difference is that I do recognize myself but in my mind, I'm still fat. I'm 8 weeks sleeved n I only lost 29 pounds (it's something but not an extreme lost weight -yet) but I feel I'm still veeery fat, like before. :(

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I think we do all go through it. Especially those of us who were big for a long time. I know I still do a double-take when I am folding my jeans and I've been at goal for 16 months! Yesterday I was taking some profile pics for an online dating site (that's a whole other story!) and it was crazy looking at pictures of myself. I don't do that often at all.

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Yes! My friend who I have inspired to work out and eat healthy asked me if I wanted her jeans that don't fit anymore. Basically her fat jeans. They were a size 8 and I said sure I'll take them completely expecting to not be able to button them but keep them for the future and low and behold they fit just fine. I have not been a size 8 since high school. Now I can only hope that one day they will be my fat jeans :)

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In my mind I'm heavier than in reality. It's so strange-but I am sure very common! @@JamieLogical I hope the dating site goes well!! I tell my single friends they should get together and write a film about online dating/dating apps-- the stories are sometimes awful and sometimes awfully great! @@Alyssa_T, I hit gw right at six months which seems about right given that my BMI wasn't as high as some. I was sleeved in July... So it's been slow and steady for me. @Clarevoyant-- I also inherited fat jeans (about three months after surgery-- I was a size 12) and was so happy that they fit!! I'm in a single digit size now and sometimes walk in a store and look for plus sizes and have to do a quick reality check!

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I have not had that happen yet. Though I'm waiting excitedly for it to happen! lol! I think once I get to be lower than a size 12 I won't know what to do with myself.

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@@triplethreat Had my first date last night and it didn't go terribly, so no horror stories yet!

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I can totally relate to this post. I am 8 weeks out and I have lost 32 lbs. but itotal since I started my journey I have lost 55 lbs. so it looks like I have lost a whole lot of weight. I started out in a tight size 16 now my size 12 are falling off of me so I assume I am a size 10. I refuse to buy any more clothing because my body has changed so much. I go in stores and window shop and find myself looking at a size 16 even though that would swallow me. But in my mind , looking at a size 10 is not the correct size to look for. I used to get discouraged when I would come on here and see that people have lost 90 lbs in 2 months ( I'm being sarcastic) but now I don't sweat it. I know that my BMI was lower coming in so my weight is gonna come off a little slower. But I'm good with only 37 lbs to go until I reach goal. So staying focused and pushing forward .

It seems you have lost a lot in such a short time. May I ask when you were sleeved? I go through something similar but the difference is that I do recognize myself but in my mind, I'm still fat. I'm 8 weeks sleeved n I only lost 29 pounds (it's something but not an extreme lost weight -yet) but I feel I'm still veeery fat, like before. :(

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I was trying to get some exercise just one week post-op yesterday and decided to walk around a shopping outlet. I had fun going into the stores to see all of the Spring fashions and I would occasionally see something I really liked and I would pick up a size 10 (my first goal size). I'd look at it on the hanger and say it looks so small. Very hard to wrap my head around shopping in "small" again.

I have been overweight for about 17 years. In that time, I not only had to buy bigger clothes but as we all know, we are limited in fashion choices. I do not know how to shop for my age, size, and I have no clue what is in style. I am looking forward to being able to buy some new clothes but it is going to be daunting. I don't want to look like I am dressing too young. I don't want to look dated. I don't want to have a distorted body image and buy clothes that are too tight or too baggy (I am currently the Queen of baggy).

Guess we all can't have stylists!!!

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I have shopping anxiety too! As I've been rebuilding my wardrobe I aim for fitted items and things that don't hide me. After so many years of disguising myself it's hard to get the hang of what to wear!

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I agree!!! I have lost 70 pounds so far. Everyone says I look great and can tell that I've lost weight, but I do not personally feel it. I can tell some by the way my clothes fit and when I catch my self in the mirror I am doing a double take. I still feel fat though. I'm sure it will take a while to get used to the new me.

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