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The waiting is soooooo tedious, but it will be worth it. I'm trying to use the time to read/research and prepare as much as possible. It's keeping me busy and from fretting too much while I wait to hear back from the insurance company :)

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Uhhh yes!!! Idk what to do with myself....

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I felt most frustrated in August. I had completed the entire program and was beginning to lose weight. I went for my scheduling appointment but was told, "We're sorry but our surgeon quit so you'll have to start over somewhere else." It took months to fill out all the releases and get my test results sent to the new program. But then I also needed to do the various assessments again. This time I sailed through. I brought a month's worth of food diaries and my DBT book and lunchbag as a show and tell, and was cleared for surgery by both the nutritionist and behavioral specialist at my first appointment and my surgery is scheduled for January 30. But now I'm worried that maybe I bamboozled everyone into thinking I'm ready when I'm not and I'll be the one in a million who doesn't lose weight with the surgery. The surgeon has recommended the sleeve because he says there is no reason to take additional risk when it looks like I won't need the extra help of dumping syndrome. I'm scared that maybe I've just pulled a great con job and really I'm no better off than I was a year ago. But that would mean I've conned an awful lot of people at both programs. I wish I had faith in myself to be able to do this!

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Time flies by incredibly quickly. I was very anxious and impatient the coming months to my surgery day- but rest assured your on the right path and you will get there. I feel like time was crawling pre op and now post op time is going by so quickly maybe too quickly. Your going to be okay. You will get there

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I am right there with you nandy! I had the seminar to educate me about the different options and some of the process. I scheduled my first two appointments immediately. One for the surgeon and one for the dietitian for the 9th and 10th. I am incredibly anxious also, I just continue to look up different things about success stories or possible failures. I look up my insurance company information and have studied the surgeon also. I'm pretty young but I have pcos and several other health issues that would qualify me along with obesity.. it makes me nervous that I won't be approved but I just keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason and that I'm doing this to give myself a happier healthier longer life. I'd love to keep in touch on our journey since we're both close to the same steps!

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I was really frustrated at first cause I wanted done immediately and now that I have completed everything and waiting for insurance approval I feel like I just can't wait anymore after the hoops and hurdles I'm ready!

progress starts in the mind

I also started spending more time on here just educating myself on all there is to know and all kind of differnt personal experiences people have...it helps

progress starts in the mind

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This is exactly what happened to me. I had no co-morbidities and if I lost weight, I would fall below the 40 bmi. It's okay though! Once they weigh you on your first visit (for insurance) that's the weight that counts. I was only able to lose 10 pounds before my surgery, but it didn't disqualify me at all. The waiting was hard, but the payoff was worth it!

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I am right there with you nandy! I had the seminar to educate me about the different options and some of the process. I scheduled my first two appointments immediately. One for the surgeon and one for the dietitian for the 9th and 10th. I am incredibly anxious also, I just continue to look up different things about success stories or possible failures. I look up my insurance company information and have studied the surgeon also. I'm pretty young but I have pcos and several other health issues that would qualify me along with obesity.. it makes me nervous that I won't be approved but I just keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason and that I'm doing this to give myself a happier healthier longer life. I'd love to keep in touch on our journey since we're both close to the same steps!

You seem like your really qualified.. I personally don't see why you wouldn't be approved.. try to relax your appointments are around the corner. You are letting your anxiety get to you cause you want it so bad I don't have any other issues except me being over weight .. if anyone is going to get denied it's me I work really hard to stay healthy.. and I never thought there would be a day that being unhealthy would benefit me

You are a couple steps ahead of me the are having time take the surgery overview class before the schedule any appointments so it sucks big time for me.. cause I don't even get to talk to anyone to feel out how they feel about my situation.

Sure we can keep in touch

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I am right there with you nandy! I had the seminar to educate me about the different options and some of the process. I scheduled my first two appointments immediately. One for the surgeon and one for the dietitian for the 9th and 10th. I am incredibly anxious also, I just continue to look up different things about success stories or possible failures. I look up my insurance company information and have studied the surgeon also. I'm pretty young but I have pcos and several other health issues that would qualify me along with obesity.. it makes me nervous that I won't be approved but I just keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason and that I'm doing this to give myself a happier healthier longer life. I'd love to keep in touch on our journey since we're both close to the same steps!

You seem like your really qualified.. I personally don't see why you wouldn't be approved.. try to relax your appointments are around the corner. You are letting your anxiety get to you cause you want it so bad I don't have any other issues except me being over weight .. if anyone is going to get denied it's me I work really hard to stay healthy.. and I never thought there would be a day that being unhealthy would benefit me

You are a couple steps ahead of me the are having time take the surgery overview class before the schedule any appointments so it sucks big time for me.. cause I don't even get to talk to anyone to feel out how they feel about my situation.

Sure we can keep in touch

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It's gonna be a long journey but one thing the time gives me, is time to think for myself. My family is trying to support me the best they can for those who know. You will get a lot of info at the general seminar it was pretty great and really pushed me forward.

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This is exactly what happened to me. I had no co-morbidities and if I lost weight, I would fall below the 40 bmi. It's okay though! Once they weigh you on your first visit (for insurance) that's the weight that counts. I was only able to lose 10 pounds before my surgery, but it didn't disqualify me at all. The waiting was hard, but the payoff was worth it!

Oh my cheese and crackers you give me hope !!!!! I'm so sick of being over weight .. I know this surgery isn't a fix all but most of the people that have been telling me are skinny like a pencil.. lol

when all your life you been told negative things about your weight and it has affected you as a person in a negative way..

And you been dieting all your life since you were a little girl ..

this is what I have been waiting for .. to give me the tool to finally be successful..

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@@nandy, exactly! I've been dieting all my life, and nothing ever worked. I struggled with eating disorders (both binging and purging) and that was the only way I ever lost weight. It's so nice to not have food be the center of my universe anymore. That's what the surgeries are. Tools.

What surgery are you having? I may have missed that in the forum.

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@ kaylamh I haven't picked yet cause I'm not that far into the process I wanted to get the doctors recommendation.. but to be honest I would take anything but the lap band ..

I have had issues with eating disorders since I was 4 years old .. and I feel you on that one it's the only way you lost weight . It's the same with me it has to be extreme for me to see any progress which sucks to be honest .

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@@nandy, I had the DS. My starting weight was around 270, with a BMI of 41. I went in thinking I was going to pick the sleeve, but the DS had such better long term results that the surgeon suggested it since I'm only 20. Definitely take the surgeons advice seriously. Good luck!

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