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Update: spouse left 4 days after surgery.

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bodyslmmn    86

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Well--looks like you lost a quick 200lbs with him leaving. Good riddance. On to smaller and better !

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Dee~Dee    107

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Glad to see you are aware of all those blessings coming your way.... great job!!! Stay focussed on the positive and leave the negative in the dust! The idea of including your ex as dead wait is awesome, I second that one... lol!

From one nurse to another (you got this)... Job well done!!!!

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Awh Thank you so much Dee-Dee. Means so much coming from another nurse. I loved the dead weight idea too. You understand then how hard work school was too. Oh yea -looking at blessings & putting him behind me this holiday season & moving on. Merry Christmas to you.

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Merry Christmas to you too ! Keep letting that inside and out beauty shine bright!!!

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My4Brownies    283

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Amazing spirit...God has put things in place at the right time for you..glad you had surgery b4 he left ( it may had stopped you from your journey..emotionally)..thank him for is for that:D...Hate what he did but glad he moved out your way of your blessings..now your journey all the way around is going to be AMAZING!!!! Did you hear me scream that from Missouri!!!!:D Good luck to you and keep up the good work.

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Thanks so much My4Brownies. Lol I heard you loud & clear. Lol. Love Missouri. Special place in my heart. I have a lot of relatives around the Jefferson City, MO. I thank God every day & will continue for being there for me through all of this & friend from church said think God had me find out all the truth too because been easier moving on in right direction I feel God has me on now without him. It was crazy he had two lives. He went to church one weekend with me & next weekend when in clinicals he was cheating on me. I am getting ready now to head to church to praise God for so many blessings in life & you are right - glad had surgery before too. I feel wonderful now & really loving myself too inside & out. God bless you & Merry Christmas too.

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LOVE IT..MERRY CHRIST MAS TO YOU TOO..Keep us posted on your journey..this site through God's guidance could be the therapy you (we)need..

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jacque2250    46

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Inspiring story and comments. You all rock with your support

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JupiterinVirgo    846

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I could not imagine what you must of been feeling. What you are feeling now. But sister, let me tell you something: sometimes the best thing someone can do for us is get out-of-the-way/make space and it is always a sign of imminent expansion. That is, life is about to change/is changing. You are about to change/are changing. Life is about to get bigger/is getting bigger, even though in this particular case your body is actually getting smaller! A whole new world is opening up to you. He wants to stay in the world he is used to. Let him.

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veryblessed    151

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@ veryblessed... I really hate that you had to go through this at a time when you need support. I have been a RN for 8 years and I remember clinical plus class was a monster. So much pressure and so little time for anything else in the world. I feel he took advantage of that but the only thing he did was help to reveal God's plan for you. His word tells us that he will never leave us or forsake us. So you are never alone. You are going to be just fine, your faith and strength will get you through this. My husband was so against me having the surgery that he did not go with me to have it, my 20 year old son did. That hurt me. He said everything in the world to discourage me from having the surgery pre- op. But I prayed my way through it and God made it happen for me. I am 6 days post op and he really doesn't say much of anything about it. But I feel that as I lose more weight he is going to have some things to say. I will not allow him to make my journey about him and his negativity because this is about me becoming a better me. If it ends bad, then oh well I have to press forward. I think you are strong and blessed in every aspect of the word. Congrats on becoming a nurse and I pray that you get a job on bariatric floor because you will be a great inspiration to so many people. Take care.

Hi Dknal2, Thank you so much & good to hear from a nurse. Yes school with working full time was hardest thing I ever did. I am really looking forward to what God has plans for me. I am so thankful I found out the truth also so can become stronger in every way. I am sorry to hear your husband is not supportive of you in your surgery. I hope he comes around to support you because this is all for the better for you & I feel he should want the best for you. You are strong also. I am glad to here you say regardless what happens you are looking at things that are best for you. I wish you all the best & pray all works out for you also. Thank you for your kind words too.

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veryblessed    151

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I could not imagine what you must of been feeling. What you are feeling now. But sister, let me tell you something: sometimes the best thing someone can do for us is get out-of-the-way/make space and it is always a sign of imminent expansion. That is, life is about to change/is changing. You are about to change/are changing. Life is about to get bigger/is getting bigger, even though in this particular case your body is actually getting smaller! A whole new world is opening up to you. He wants to stay in the world he is used to. Let him.

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Thank you. I doing better now. Pushed through a lot of different emotions but the anger & disgusted feelings I now have for him helped me move on more too. You are right in what you have said. Thank you.

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veryblessed    151

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I could not imagine what you must of been feeling. What you are feeling now. But sister, let me tell you something: sometimes the best thing someone can do for us is get out-of-the-way/make space and it is always a sign of imminent expansion. That is, life is about to change/is changing. You are about to change/are changing. Life is about to get bigger/is getting bigger, even though in this particular case your body is actually getting smaller! A whole new world is opening up to you. He wants to stay in the world he is used to. Let him.

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Thank you. I doing better now. Pushed through a lot of different emotions but the anger & disgusted feelings I now have for him helped me move on more too. You are right in what you have said. Thank you.

You got this,thank you for sharing. You are strong and an inspiration tu of others. I had my sleeve on Dec 7 and it's painful. Taking day by day. Good luck

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You got this,thank you for sharing. You are strong and an inspiration tu of others. I had my sleeve on Dec 7 and it's painful. Taking day by day. Good luck

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Thanks. Good luck to you too.

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veryblessed    151

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Amazing story! My friend was sleeved this year. She received her divorce papers (she had no clue he was divorcing her) before she could discuss the surgery with him. She got her surgery, showed up to court looking HAWT! 9 months later, 100 pounds down and a new love----she is happpppppy.

Congrats on all the good things happening to you and for you!

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Thank you. That is a good inspiring story for me. I hope to met a nice guy that will treat me right & love me down road too.

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Well--looks like you lost a quick 200lbs with him leaving. Good riddance. On to smaller and better !

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