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Venting to all that would understand me, I want to indulge in food (something good, not puree potatoes) and I can't. I had to put my first dog/down first pet ever down today, I loved him more days than I was mad at him. My bacon buddy, always gave him half a piece of what I was eating so I wouldn't eat the whole thing. Lightning is his name, 9 year old deaf great Dane. Putting him down was hard, never did that before. It was peaceful but tonight the house seems different. So many emotions and all I want to do is eat to comfort me. I know I can't. But to all that may understand what i am feeling and to all who read this to hear me vent. Thank u. post-302804-14811612209931_thumb.jpg

hw - 444 ~ surgery date 11/23 ~ sw - 363 ~ cw 351

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I'm sooooo sorry you had to put your beautiful dog down. I know the feeling and it is horrible. Prayer and thoughts are with you. Try something other than food for comfort and see if it helps, warm soothing bath, indulge in trash tv show or movie, take a nap, go for a walk. Hope you heart heals soon. ❤️

VSG date: 11/22/16

HW: 225. SW:222. CW: 209

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I'm so sorry for your loss! I had to put my girl down two years ago, and I miss her all the time. Dogs are special.

As for food for comfort, good for you for recognizing what your need really is. Grief is a process and there is no way to get through it, but going through.

For what it's worth, this stranger on the net sends you love.

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I have cried like a big fat baby every time I have had to put a dog to sleep. Heck, I do that for cats too. I am a big softy. I feel for your loss.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my 15 yo Beagle earlier this year and it was so hard. She was my baby..so I totally understand, but don't emotional eat your way out of your grief though..it's not the best way to mourn.

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I never had a pet before, it is normal to be so upset over a dog??

hw - 444 ~ surgery date 11/23 ~ sw - 363 ~ cw 351

Absolutely. I'm so sorry for your loss. Our pets are such a special part of our lives - it's tough when they die. Having to make the decision to put them down is especially difficult.

Take good care of yourself.

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I never had a pet before, it is normal to be so upset over a dog??

hw - 444 ~ surgery date 11/23 ~ sw - 363 ~ cw 351

It is. A dog is not just some animal. Dogs are companions who give us unconditional love, and who depend on us for their well being. The relationship between dogs and humans spans thousands of years and hundreds of cultures.

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Sorry for your lost n I understand..Nov 9th I was sleeved n the stress of my aunt in n out of the hospital since the 8th makes me wanna hi a buffet for comfort..but fate of surgery n can't eat much n reading you guys post has helped..Again soooo sorry for your lost.

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Drink something hot and calorie free like tea. It will warm you from the inside out and keep you from eating.

Losing our pets is hard. I'm sorry for your loss.

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Like Everyone Else I'M SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR BABY PASSING.

MY BEST ADVICE IS TO PRAY AND ASK GOD TO HEAL THAT PAIN YOU ARE FEELING AND BE SPECIFIC AND ASK HIM TO TAKE YOUR MIND AWAY FROM THE THOUGHT OF WANTING TO EAT THIS PAIN AWAY AND I'LL STAND IN AGREEMENT AND I BELIEVE THAT HE WILL.

ALSO, READING THE BIBLE AND LISTENING TO GOSPEL MUSIC HELPS ME OFTEN.

MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU

AND IT'S IN JESUS NAME I PRAY.

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I never had a pet before, it is normal to be so upset over a dog??

hw - 444 ~ surgery date 11/23 ~ sw - 363 ~ cw 351

Pets are so different than most people they love us at our best and worst unconditionally. The only time my dogs ever get mad at me is bath time. I lost my sweet cheesecake last year right before thanksgiving. At 25 she had a long good life but was still hard to let her go. Prayers for you in your time of loss.

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First, I'm very very sorry for your loss. My dogs are my children so I completely understand.

This works for me - adult coloring books. They have them at Michaels, and everything is available on Amazon these days. It makes you concentrate, and the end result is rewarding.

I learned it as a trick to help panic attacks, but it's the same concept.

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