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MSer- just wanted to also tell you I am at a stall too at 3 weeks. I haven't lost since week 1 post op. My pants are a bit looser though.

Try looking up some crock pot meals or on Sunday make some main meat meals- chicken, meatloaf, burgers etc.. for r your family. I work full time too and know how hard it is to work and cook let alone all the other things we do as Moms.

You are a strong woman! Love yourself first so you can be happy. Start thinking positive and actions will follow.

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thank you all for your kind words, encouragement and prayers...I so appreciate you so very much...I'm taking all your ideas and head into the weekend with a new mindset...because of all of you. I can do this. thank you. I'm not even thinking of my MS...well I wasn't...

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Did you not see my post above? You CAN eat what you're feeding your family once you are cleared for regualr foods. You eat the Protein, they eat everything else. Don't make things harder than they need to be.

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If I have to cook I make Pasta and sauce since I can't eat empty calories. I imagine that after a few days of spaghetti your husband might be more incline you cook for himself and his children.

As for the healthy food "bandwagon" if they expect you to serve them they need to RESPECT the time and effort you put into making their meals and part of showing that respect is eating what you made.

And yes, I would slap the crap out of my husband if his behavior made me cry.

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Ugh. I have the same fear. I have not had the surgery yet but met with the nutritionist to go over everything yesterday. I asked her how I'm supposed to juggle eating my diet and still cook for my family without torturing them. There is no way in hell I'm buying skim milk. My 10 month old daughter is going to need whole milk soon. So now I have to basically grocery shop double? I can't eat what I'm feeding my family? Um.... not good.

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You don't have to drink skim milk and your kids don't need full fat milk. Compromise with 2% or switch to unsweetened cashew or almond milk. My family loves it and its only 25 calories for 8oz?

My plan doesn't restrict fat much. I have 80 grams of Protein but only 20-25 grams of carbs. I didn'toc'mon much the first 4 weeks. And when I did I made Pasta, sauce and a pre made salad kit. Now i make normal meals. And weigh measure out my portion. Basically 3 oz of Protein, veggies and occasionally a few bites of potatos or yams.

I work more than full time so we do get those pre boxed meals (green chief or hello fresh) three meals for four all the (high quality) ingredients for each meal except oil salt and pepper and instructions. If you figure that you won't be throwing away spoiled food and best of all you don't need to do much tasting. They have at least 6-8 meal choices every week. I have a code for 40.00 off your first shipment, PM me if you want to try it.

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I'm sorry you're having a hard time, but like someone else said you're probably just in the normal stall.

The good thing about being the cook and most likely the grocery shopper is you have a little control... Here's what I do. I cook healthy meals that I can eat....something like grilled chicken or other Protein, and non-starchy veggies....and then I keep a bag of baking potatoes in the pantry so that on days my husband feels he has to have some carbs with his meal I'll bake a potato for him or maybe cook a little rice or Pasta for him.

Unfortunately our families are not the ones who had surgery and are trying to lose weight....it still takes a lot of control on our part because there are always going to be temptations around.....You have to decide that being thin tastes better than any junk food you can put in your mouth...I find that if I always stick to the rule of eating protein first that I really don't have room for anything else so there is a lot less chance that I'll cheat with carbs or other junkie foods.....

Good luck to you!

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single father of two teenage girls, I pre prepare 4or 5 meals on Sunday AM for the week. one day is left overs one pizza I eat fish and chicken eggs and shakes. I have been doing it for years I put in 60 to 65 hrs a week Time management.

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Great suggestion

single father of two teenage girls, I pre prepare 4or 5 meals on Sunday AM for the week. one day is left overs one pizza I eat fish and chicken eggs and shakes. I have been doing it for years I put in 60 to 65 hrs a week Time management.

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