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I'm only one week post op but what I have to say doesn't matter if I was pre or post because the ONLY thing that matters is YOUR decision to do what you feel is best for you! I get it...I had a similar experience. Went to a local facility and they were so negative to me about my decision because my BMI was lower with one comorbidity. I decided I would never return to them and did some research that led me to a facility 2 1/2-3hours away where I had my surgery. No regrets as the staff and Doctor has been wonderful! So Congrats for you taking control of your life!!! In my moms voice...if people don't shape up they need to ship out! You don't have time for negativity only positivity you should allow to surround you:) All the best!!!

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Thanks. I am 3 days post op. I am having a little discomfort but it's getting better.

I'm only one week post op but what I have to say doesn't matter if I was pre or post because the ONLY thing that matters is YOUR decision to do what you feel is best for you! I get it...I had a similar experience. Went to a local facility and they were so negative to me about my decision because my BMI was lower with one comorbidity. I decided I would never return to them and did some research that led me to a facility 2 1/2-3hours away where I had my surgery. No regrets as the staff and Doctor has been wonderful! So Congrats for you taking control of your life!!! In my moms voice...if people don't shape up they need to ship out! You don't have time for negativity only positivity you should allow to surround you:) All the best!!!

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I'm day 8 post op I think and I weighed myself 2 days ago and was down 13 lbs. I promised to weigh myself only on fridays. So I won't know what my weight is until fri .

Starting day 3 and it's getting a little better. Should be let go from the hospital today

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I'm day 8 post op I think and I weighed myself 2 days ago and was down 13 lbs. I promised to weigh myself only on fridays. So I won't know what my weight is until fri .

Starting day 3 and it's getting a little better. Should be let go from the hospital today

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I'm glad to hear you're doing well. I've been thinking about you since your pre-surgery posts.

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To tell you the truth I keep hearing that I don't look like I need the surgery. I am 5 2 start weight 202 36.7 bmi. I am on month 2 of my diet with my Dr. I have 3 co morbidities and I have lost 4.5 lbs on 2 months. I am so tired of hearing that I don't look like I need it. I am have been heavy all my life and my weight has always been an issue. I am able to have this surgery and I am not letting any one stop this process. I love this board. It reminds me what I am doing is for me and not for anyone else.

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I have struggled with weight loss and gain more times then I can count. I have hated myself every time I gained it all plus more back. I have felt like a failure. I have watched my siblings develop type 2 diabetes and my head was constantly filled with shame about my size. My high weight was 235, preop diet I was 227, surgery day I was 217. My surgery was Nov 18, 2016. I didn't share my plan with anyone but my husband and you awesome strangers. Why? Because I didn't want to hear all that negative. That nurse has no idea what she is talking about. Don't listen, keep your head up, and we will see you on the losers side soon! ❤

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Aww... thanks.. you should have sent me a private message. I welcome all support but thank you for thinking about me. That's so sweet. ????

I'm day 8 post op I think and I weighed myself 2 days ago and was down 13 lbs. I promised to weigh myself only on fridays. So I won't know what my weight is until fri .

Starting day 3 and it's getting a little better. Should be let go from the hospital today

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I'm glad to hear you're doing well. I've been thinking about you since your pre-surgery posts.

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You have to do what's best for you. Be strong and stand solid in your decision. No one has to live with your health conditions but you so do what's best for you.

To tell you the truth I keep hearing that I don't look like I need the surgery. I am 5 2 start weight 202 36.7 bmi. I am on month 2 of my diet with my Dr. I have 3 co morbidities and I have lost 4.5 lbs on 2 months. I am so tired of hearing that I don't look like I need it. I am have been heavy all my life and my weight has always been an issue. I am able to have this surgery and I am not letting any one stop this process. I love this board. It reminds me what I am doing is for me and not for anyone else.

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Yeeessss!!!! I totally agree. I thank you for your support. I am soliciting all of you awesome strangers support because you are all I have. What a blessing to have people who understand your battles and sympathize with the pain of this constant struggle. I love it here and thank you so much for your encouragement

I have struggled with weight loss and gain more times then I can count. I have hated myself every time I gained it all plus more back. I have felt like a failure. I have watched my siblings develop type 2 diabetes and my head was constantly filled with shame about my size. My high weight was 235, preop diet I was 227, surgery day I was 217. My surgery was Nov 18, 2016. I didn't share my plan with anyone but my husband and you awesome strangers. Why? Because I didn't want to hear all that negative. That nurse has no idea what she is talking about. Don't listen, keep your head up, and we will see you on the losers side soon! ❤

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