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This is my first time on the forum....

I got a lapband 14 yrs ago, never really saw any change. Then about 4 years ago, I lost 100lbs, through diet and exercise. Honestly, never thought I would go back to being heavy again.

But... I changed to a new job I hate and have gained back 60lbs.

My surgery is scheduled for 11/29; my husband thinks I can lose the weight on my own. I feel like I have no will power and just go back to my horrible diet favorites.

Is it really worth all the bad parts (dumping/hair loss/never having chocolate again) of having the gastric bypass??????

This could be the pre-op diet talking (it's hard), but I need some real perspective!

*Me after I lost the weight/and current.

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I haven't lost any hair (yet, anyway), dumping is a learning experience that, once you have happen you will never want to have it happen again and chocolate was never my thing. Being able to buy cute clothes and walk 8 or more miles in a day most definitely is worth it.

ETA: It might help to write a list of pros and cons, get your head wrapped around things. But I'm only three months out and have no regrets about doing it.

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I had issues with gas in the hospital but I am 2.5 months out and feel amazing. You have to remember that this is not a quick fix. This is a life changing thing. I would do it again if I could. I also lost 91 pounds in my own and gained all but 11 back. I hurt my knee and couldn't walk as much and needless to say will power just left. Think hard about it first but if you decide to do it, I think it's worth it. Just research and get all the facts.

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I was "normal" my whole life till I hit 50 yrs old. Then a bunch of things happened, including buying a business where I got to sleep 4 hrs a night. I ballooned to 282 lbs. My only regret about having RNY is that I didn't do it sooner!! I lost very little hair, and what I did lose is back already!! I had dumping but part of it is that a lot of bypass patients become lactose intolerant which played a large part in the dumping. I'm 2 1/2 yrs out and have lost 120 lbs, only 15 to go to MY goal weight but made my drs. months ago. I still have chocolate when I want it, just not every day and have the bite size chocolate bars. I eat normally now, just less and drink my Water. You won't regret it!! (except for the boobs!! I miss those and mine don't look like boobs anymore but just need some money to fix that!!)

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Your story is similar to me, (except for lap band part) I have been up and down, now at my heaviest bmi ever (37). My hubby doesn't think the surgery is necessary but I am sick of the up and down and fear the older I get weight will only continue to pack on. I am 37 now and ready for this change. I am scheduled for sleeve in 5 days, I will try to let you know how it goes for me. Good luck, everyone has to choose best option for them. I truly feel I need this for my forever health and my family's health.

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Good luck! I am 37 also, and know once you hit 40, it only gets tougher to lose weight.

I think the surgery will be the kick in the butt I need, but nervous about the lifestyle change.

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I had a Crap Band for 11 years, revised to bypass 26 months ago. I am thrilled with my choice. I don't think I dump at all. i have had a couple of weird sweating incidents, but that could be hot flashes. I eat chocolate nearly every day (carry dark chocolate in my purse and have a small piece for "dessert"). I did lose hair and that went on for about a year, but then it stopped and my hair has returned to its former glory. Among the things I can now do: Sitting with crossed legs, fitting into an airplane seat comfortably, sitting in the backseat of a van between two car seats :), shopping for "regular" clothes, wearing skinny jeans and boots, wearing yoga pants in public without looking like one of the "people of Walmart". If I could do it on my own, I wouldn't have regained the 90 lbs I lost with the band. I lost 107 within 14 months after the bypass. Have gained 10 back in a year but I am so much more able to keep that from snowballing!

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